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Hello Aunt Vadge,
My girlfriend is 24 and a virgin. We were making out and tried to have sex; when I tried to insert, she had pain, so I removed it and started to finger her – I didn’t insert fully. Now she hasn’t got her period.
She usually gets it on the 10th and it ends on the 16th; her last was 10–16 December, and we tried this on 25 December. It’s now 30 January and still no period. She says she has pregnancy symptoms and is very scared.
I did not ejaculate or precum inside her. Can you help us?
Thanks,
Sad
Dear Sad,
You can both breathe – the pregnancy risk from what you’ve described is very low, and her late period is far more likely down to stress than anything else.
For pregnancy, live sperm has to get inside the vagina, and you’ve said clearly there was no ejaculation and no precum inside, and the penis only went partway for a moment before you stopped. That’s not a route for pregnancy, so the odds are firmly that she is not pregnant.
The much more likely reason her period is late is the very thing she’s feeling: fear. Stress and anxiety are among the most common causes of a delayed period, because they push ovulation back, and a worry exactly like this one – am I pregnant? – is a classic trigger, which then makes the period later still, which fuels more worry.
Her ‘pregnancy symptoms’ (tender breasts, cravings, feeling off) are also, frustratingly, the very same things stress and an impending period cause, so they don’t tell you much on their own.
The way to turn ‘very unlikely’ into ‘certain’ and break the spiral is simple: it’s now well past when a test would be accurate, so have her take a home pregnancy test – five minutes and you’ll both know. I’m confident it’ll be negative.
And for the future, learning how pregnancy does and doesn’t happen and tracking her cycle will spare you both this kind of fright. Be kind to each other.
Warmest regards,
Aunt Vadge
This is general information, not a substitute for personalised medical advice.
