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Ask Aunt Vadge
Aunt Vadge: my new girlfriend has major pain when I touch her vaginal entrance. Why?
Aunt Vadge advises on the common issue of vaginal pain in new relationships, emphasizing the importance of patience, understanding, and focusing on non-penetrative forms of pleasure. The response highlights the need for gentle exploration and the crucial role of communication and trust in overcoming discomfort, suggesting that the issue often lies not in the physical act but in the mental and emotional readiness of the partner.
Aunt Vadge: Pain with sex and peeing after a UTI
After experiencing a severe UTI, one might encounter ongoing discomfort during urination and sexual activity, potentially due to scar tissue or persistent inflammation. It's crucial to seek a specialist's evaluation to identify the underlying cause. Adjunct treatments like acupuncture, reflexology, and consulting with a herbalist or naturopath could offer additional relief and support during this challenging time. Remember, your pain is valid, and finding a practitioner who takes it seriously is key to your recovery.
Aunt Vadge: how fertile is pre-cum?
A concerned individual inquires about the possibility of pregnancy from pre-ejaculate on the outside of a condom. Aunt Vadge reassures, explaining the low likelihood due to birth control and spermicidal condom use, but emphasizes the importance of consistent birth control usage and understanding the nature of pre-ejaculate, which may contain live sperm in some individuals. The response is educational, aiming to alleviate worries while promoting safe sexual practices.
Aunt Vadge: I’m new to fingering, and it bled a little bit the last time – why?
Bleeding after fingering, especially for beginners, can be alarming. Aunt Vadge reassures a young woman that minor bleeding can occur due to small cuts from fingernails and is usually not a cause for concern. It's part of learning about your body's responses and how to engage in self-pleasure safely. Healing is quick, but it's important to monitor for continued bleeding or pain.
Aunt Vadge: I have bloating after dry humping – am I pregnant?
Aunt Vadge reassures a 24-year-old from India who experienced bloating and vaginal irritation after dry humping that pregnancy in this scenario is extremely unlikely. She explains that sperm need to be deposited directly into the vagina in sufficient quantity to cause pregnancy, a scenario not facilitated by clothing barriers and the timing of the sexual activity in relation to the menstrual cycle. The article also addresses concerns about vaginal irritation and offers advice on sexual health and contraception.
Aunt Vadge: small lump inside the lip of my vagina
A 13-year-old girl discovers a small lump on the inside lip of her vagina, suspecting it to be a Bartholin's cyst. Aunt Vadge offers advice on home treatment, including the use of hot packs and ensuring cleanliness, while also covering the possibility of it being an ingrown hair or sebaceous cyst. The importance of monitoring for infection and seeking medical advice if conditions worsen is emphasized.
Aunt Vadge: less vaginal fluids than normal – why?
Aunt Vadge addresses concerns about changes in vaginal fluid consistency, exploring factors like hormonal changes, diet, and lifestyle. She reassures that variations are normal, advises on potential causes, and suggests when to seek medical advice, highlighting the importance of understanding one's body.
Aunt Vadge: is my womb falling out?
A 48-year-old woman expresses concern about something hanging out of her vagina, fearing her womb might be falling out. Aunt Vadge urges immediate medical examination, suggesting it could be a prolapse or a condition related to low oestrogen levels, emphasizing the importance of preserving one's insides.
Aunt Vadge: had a rectocele but now have a protruding bump around vagina
After undergoing rectocele surgery, noticing a protruding bump near the vaginal opening can be concerning. It may indicate a urethral prolapse or caruncle, conditions that are not uncommon in individuals with weakened pelvic tissue, especially post-menopause. These conditions, while different from rectoceles, require immediate attention to prevent further complications. Understanding the location and nature of the bump is vital for diagnosis, emphasizing the importance of consulting a healthcare professional for a thorough examination and appropriate treatment to strengthen the pelvic floor.
Aunt Vadge: dry humping has triggered vulvodynia – why?
A reader shares their experience of developing severe pain diagnosed as vulvodynia after dry humping, questioning the cause and seeking advice. Aunt Vadge explains the condition's complexity, emphasizing it's unlikely to be caused by the act itself but rather an underlying issue becoming apparent. She advises against self-blame and encourages seeking further information and medical advice.
Aunt Vadge: is this a fingering wound or my period?
An 18-year-old from Virginia seeks Aunt Vadge's advice on distinguishing between bleeding caused by fingering and menstruation. Aunt Vadge reassures that initial bleeding likely resulted from fingering, followed by the onset of her period. She advises seeking medical attention if abnormal bleeding occurs outside the menstrual cycle and recommends gentleness in future intimate encounters.
Aunt Vadge: did I lose my virginity or is this my period? Or both?
A young woman reaches out to Aunt Vadge with concerns about bleeding following a minimal sexual encounter, questioning if it was her period or if she lost her virginity. Aunt Vadge addresses the complexities surrounding the concept of virginity and reassures her that the bleeding is most likely her period, highlighting that virginity is a nuanced and not strictly physical state.
Aunt Vadge: transparent bubbly liquid coming out of my vagina
A 19-year-old from Mexico expresses concern about a transparent, bubbly liquid produced by her vagina post-fingering. Aunt Vadge reassures her it's normal, healthy vaginal secretions from the Skene's glands, indicating no infection but a natural response to arousal.
Aunt Vadge: When I sit down, my vagina gets hot – why?
Experiencing heat in the vaginal area while sitting, especially with legs crossed, can be due to restricted airflow, synthetic underwear, or increased blood flow. It's crucial to opt for breathable fabrics and maintain loose-fitting clothes to allow for better ventilation. However, if accompanied by symptoms like itching or unusual odour, seeking medical advice is recommended.
Aunt Vadge: bleeding, but no pain, after fingering
Bleeding after fingering without pain or discomfort might indicate a disturbance in the vagina without nerve endings, signaling a need for medical consultation. It could also be a sign of an impending menstrual period. There's no pregnancy risk from fingering unless there's semen involved, but persistent bleeding warrants a doctor's visit.
Aunt Vadge: why is my vagina itchy and sore?
Experiencing vaginal itchiness and soreness can be distressing. This article explores possible causes such as yeast infections and offers advice on dietary changes, hygiene practices, and when to seek further medical evaluation. It emphasizes the importance of understanding your body's reactions and provides actionable steps for relief.
Aunt Vadge: my boyfriend has really chapped lips – how can I get him to fix it?
Aunt Vadge advises on how to tackle the issue of a boyfriend's chapped lips, emphasizing the importance of hydration, the right lip balm, and a unique approach to making him realize the discomfort it causes. This guidance not only aims to solve the immediate issue but also enhances the quality of intimate moments by ensuring both partners enjoy the sensation of smooth, healthy lips.
Aunt Vadge: do I have herpes even though the test was negative?
A 24-year-old from the UK shares her concern about recurrent posterior fourchette tears, negative herpes tests, and the possibility of thrush causing her symptoms. Aunt Vadge advises ignoring internet claims and focusing on the possibility of a yeast infection contributing to the symptoms, suggesting a visit to the doctor if conditions do not improve after treating thrush.
Aunt Vadge: paper cuts around my vaginal entrance
Experiencing paper-cut-like cracks near the vaginal entrance can be alarming. Often, these cuts are linked to yeast infections or not being sufficiently aroused before penetration. Properly treating the yeast infection and ensuring adequate arousal before sex can prevent these uncomfortable cuts. Understanding your body's needs and sexual response is crucial for a healthy and enjoyable sex life.
Aunt Vadge: unusual itching that just won’t go away
A detailed account of a woman's relentless vulvar itch, exploring potential causes such as bacterial vaginosis, dermatitis, and lichenoid conditions. The article delves into the complexity of diagnosing and treating genital itching, highlighting the importance of considering various factors from hygiene practices to the possibility of contact dermatitis and the role of a dermatologist in identifying skin-related conditions.
Aunt Vadge: sex wound or irregular period?
A reader experiences unexpected vaginal bleeding after intercourse, questioning if it's due to a minor cut from sexual activity or an irregular period caused by contraceptive pills. Aunt Vadge advises on distinguishing between the two and suggests seeking medical advice if the condition persists or worsens.
Aunt Vadge: itchy spot on clitoris only relieved by moisturising cream
A woman experiencing persistent itchiness near her clitoris, unrelieved by yeast infection treatments, may be facing a condition like lichen sclerosus. After the birth of her second child, only moisturising cream has provided temporary relief. Experts suggest exploring lichenoid conditions and consulting with a vulvovaginal dermatology specialist for a more accurate diagnosis and effective treatment.
Aunt Vadge: posterior fourchette tearing after sex – why is this happening?
Posterior fourchette tears can be a distressing condition, often linked to underlying issues like genital herpes and yeast infections. Despite the challenges, there are ways to manage and overcome this condition, with a focus on holistic health and proper care. From the use of estrogen cream to exploring whole-body health with a naturopath, find out how you can return to pain-free sex.
Aunt Vadge: I’ve got a bad smell coming from my vagina
A 16-year-old from England shares her distress over a persistent bad smell and discharge from her vagina, suspecting it's not normal. Aunt Vadge suggests it might be bacterial vaginosis (BV), a common vaginal infection that can occur without sexual activity, caused by a microbial imbalance. She emphasizes the importance of seeking medical advice for a proper diagnosis and treatment, including the potential use of vagina-friendly probiotics post-antibiotic treatment.
Aunt Vadge: cuts around clitoral hood – is it herpes?
Recurring cuts around the clitoral hood can be alarming and raise concerns about herpes. However, these cuts could also be mechanical tears, yeast infections, or related to hormonal issues. It's crucial to get tested to identify the underlying cause and seek appropriate treatment. Aunt Vadge offers insights into the possible reasons for these cuts and suggests remedies, including careful washing and a tea tree oil mixture for yeast.
Aunt Vadge: fingers freak me out
A woman's struggle with vaginismus and fear of being fingered or undergoing pelvic examinations is deeply explored. Aunt Vadge offers empathetic advice, suggesting the importance of self-exploration, seeking professional help from sex therapists or pelvic physiotherapists, and the crucial role of patient, loving support from partners. The response highlights the journey towards understanding and overcoming vaginismus, emphasizing patience, self-kindness, and the potential to still conceive despite the condition.
Aunt Vadge: his hand was covered in blood but there was no pain
A reader describes a concerning incident of significant vaginal bleeding without pain during an intimate moment, sparking a discussion on potential causes such as unnoticed injuries, cervical conditions, and the importance of gentle handling to prevent such occurrences. Aunt Vadge offers insights into why this might happen and advises on monitoring for patterns that could indicate underlying issues.
Aunt Vadge: is it normal to be sore when I pee after sex?
Painful urination following sexual intercourse could be a sign of insufficient arousal, potential tissue damage, or a urinary tract infection (UTI). Aunt Vadge advises on the importance of being fully aroused for penetration to avoid discomfort and the necessity of communication and experimentation for pleasurable, pain-free sex.
Aunt Vadge: I have to ride a bike tomorrow, but I’ve cut my labia
Dealing with a labia scratch can be challenging, especially with an upcoming bike ride. Learn practical tips on protecting the area, from using sterile bandages to creating a soft buffer between you and the bike seat. Find out how to minimize irritation and explore options for pain relief to make your ride as comfortable as possible.
Aunt Vadge: post-fingering burning, and could I be pregnant?
Aunt Vadge tackles the common concerns of post-fingering soreness and the possibility of pregnancy from such activities. With practical advice on how to avoid discomfort and reassurance on the low risk of pregnancy, this article is a must-read for those exploring their sexuality.
Aunt Vadge: When I get my period, my vagina burns
Vaginal burning during menstruation is not normal and may indicate cyclical vulvovaginitis, often due to an underlying yeast infection. Factors like allergies to menstrual products, nervous system issues, infections, or hormonal imbalances could also contribute. Understanding and addressing the root cause is crucial for relief.
Aunt Vadge: cuts of unknown origin
A 19-year-old from the UK shares her distress over recurring vaginal cuts, fearing herpes but suspecting her contraceptive pill's role in her symptoms. Aunt Vadge advises on the importance of proper diagnosis, the potential impact of hormonal birth control on vaginal health, and the steps to take towards healing, emphasizing the need for a balanced vaginal microflora and exploring non-hormonal birth control options.
Aunt Vadge: I’m bleeding heavily two days after being fingered – what’s happening?
A 19-year-old from the United States reports heavy bleeding two days after being fingered, a situation not related to her menstrual cycle. Aunt Vadge advises that while it may not directly be caused by the fingering, unusual heavy bleeding is a concern and recommends seeking medical examination to understand the underlying issue.
Aunt Vadge: I’m scared of needles – how do I get rid of an ingrown hair on my bikini line?
Aunt Vadge offers advice on removing an ingrown hair in the bikini area without the use of needles. Techniques include using tweezers or nail scissors to gently free the trapped hair, providing a painless solution for those who are needle-averse. With patience and care, the ingrown hair can be effectively treated, ensuring comfort and relief.
Aunt Vadge: menopause is tearing me apart
At 54, experiencing painful vaginal tearing due to low oestrogen levels despite hormone therapy, this article explores holistic and medical strategies to address the underlying issues. From reassessing hormone therapy to incorporating dietary changes and naturopathic care, learn how to navigate menopausal symptoms effectively.
Aunt Vadge: is his dry, sore penis evidence of him cheating on me?
Aunt Vadge discusses the possibility of vaginal dryness causing friction damage to a partner's penis, highlighting the importance of addressing underlying conditions and trust issues within a relationship. The article delves into personal anecdotes and expert advice on managing dryness and the implications of jumping to conclusions about a partner's fidelity.
Aunt Vadge: I’m too scared of pain to have sex
Addressing the fear of pain in first-time sexual experiences, Aunt Vadge highlights the importance of relaxation, lubrication, and taking things slow. With practical advice on easing into sexual activity and ensuring comfort, the response aims to put minds at ease and make the first-time experience less daunting and more enjoyable.
Aunt Vadge: I have BV but nothing the doctor gave me works
A 17-year-old shares her struggle with persistent BV-like symptoms despite various treatments, revealing a potential misdiagnosis. The response highlights the complexity of diagnosing and treating vaginal infections, suggesting alternative causes like aerobic vaginitis or fungal infections. It emphasizes the importance of understanding the condition, exploring advanced testing methods like PCR, and considering the role of antibiotic resistance in treatment failures.
Aunt Vadge: spotting and bleeding and weird periods after miscarriage
Following a miscarriage, it's common to experience hormonal imbalances and inefficient uterine cleansing, leading to prolonged bleeding or spotting. Herbal remedies like vitex can aid in regulating hormones and improving uterine health, but it's crucial to consult a herbalist or naturopath for personalized advice. Additionally, addressing potential iron deficiency due to blood loss is important for recovery.
Aunt Vadge: I’ve got painful slits in all the cracks
Vulva fissures can be a painful and worrying condition, often leading to concerns about herpes. However, if tests for herpes are negative, it's important to explore other potential causes. These can range from yeast infections to unknown factors, requiring a thorough examination by a doctor or a specialist. Aunt Vadge emphasizes the importance of not jumping to conclusions and the value of specialist consultation for unresolved cases.
Aunt Vadge: scrapes from masturbating
Aunt Vadge addresses concerns about vulva scrapes caused by masturbation, advising on healing and prevention. Learn the importance of gentle care and understanding the delicate nature of the vulva to avoid future injuries.
Aunt Vadge: my vagina itches and burns after antibiotic treatment for a sinus infection
Antibiotics can disrupt the balance of good bacteria, leading to yeast infections characterized by itching and burning sensations around the vagina. Additionally, dark brown discharge could signal underlying health issues, necessitating a medical check-up to ensure the health of the cervix, uterus, and vagina. This article provides insights into managing these discomforts and understanding their potential causes.
Aunt Vadge: we went from anal to vaginal sex and now I’ve got a huge bump
Switching from anal to vaginal sex without proper hygiene can introduce harmful bacteria, leading to infections or bumps. Aunt Vadge advises on the importance of cleanliness, potential causes of vaginal bumps, and the necessity of seeking medical advice to ensure vaginal health and prevent complications.
Aunt Vadge: Do I need to tell my partner?
Debating whether to disclose a past bout of bacterial vaginosis (BV) to a new partner? Aunt Vadge highlights the importance of honesty in relationships but reassures that sharing past health issues like BV is optional. It's about comfort, trust, and the present connection. Whether to share or not is your choice, but either way, it doesn't define your relationship's future.
Aunt Vadge: I slipped – will my clitoris be ok or should I go to the hospital?
After a painful slip resulting in a clitoral injury, the concern is whether to visit a doctor. Aunt Vadge advises on home care and signs that necessitate professional medical attention, emphasizing the importance of cleanliness, minimal contact, and natural anti-inflammatories for healing.
Aunt Vadge: Blisters, polyps, cysts and more – what’s a girl to do?
This article delves into the complexities of vaginal health issues such as blisters, polyps, and cysts, highlighting the importance of hormonal balance and the role of systemic immune responses. It emphasises the need for a comprehensive approach to treatment, including consulting with experienced naturopaths alongside traditional medical advice, to address both the physical and emotional aspects of these conditions.
Aunt Vadge: Do I have a short vagina?
An 18-year-old expresses concerns about experiencing pain during tampon insertion and fearing a short vagina. Aunt Vadge explains potential causes like a microperforate hymen and the importance of seeking medical consultation to explore anatomical normalcy and practical guidance for ease of insertion.
Aunt Vadge: I fingered myself for the first time, and slimy, chunky white stuff came out
An 18-year-old expresses concern over encountering chunky white discharge after fingering for the first time. Aunt Vadge reassures that it might be normal vaginal secretions or a sign of a yeast infection, advising cleanliness and medical consultation if symptoms like itching or irritation occur.
Aunt Vadge: I just had a baby and have a tear in my labia – what can I do to soothe it?
Experiencing a labia tear postpartum can be extremely painful, especially during urination. Aunt Vadge advises on keeping the wound clean with warm water and antibacterial liquid, using soothing ointments, diluting urine with warm water to reduce pain, and the importance of getting the tear checked by a healthcare professional. These combined approaches aim to promote healing and provide significant relief.
Aunt Vadge: I’m scared sex stuff is going to hurt
Navigating the fear of pain during first-time sexual experiences can be daunting. Aunt Vadge offers insightful advice on understanding your body's reactions, the importance of relaxation and arousal, and practical steps to prepare for a pain-free sexual exploration. From examining the hymen to learning about the pelvic floor and the crucial role of getting turned on, this guide empowers you to approach your sexual journey with confidence and knowledge.
Aunt Vadge: is discharge after sex normal?
Aunt Vadge reassures that vaginal discharge after sex is perfectly normal, explaining the increase in fluids due to arousal and the presence of semen or pre-ejaculate from your partner. This natural response indicates healthy sexual function and lubrication.
Aunt Vadge: I put one finger in once and it bled
Experiencing slight bleeding after fingering for the first time can be worrying, but it's often a minor issue related to the hymen or lack of lubrication. Aunt Vadge offers advice on getting to know your vagina through safe exploration, using tools like a hand mirror and coconut oil for a better understanding of your anatomy. Learning about your body's response to stimulation and the importance of being aroused for comfortable exploration is key.
Aunt Vadge: sex really hurts – why?
Painful sex can be a distressing experience, especially for newcomers to sexual intimacy. Aunt Vadge addresses common concerns, from genital mismatches to the importance of arousal, and provides practical tips for overcoming discomfort, including the use of proper lubrication and the exploration of one's own body to understand pleasure and pain thresholds. The article emphasizes the importance of patience, communication, and self-exploration in achieving a fulfilling sexual experience.
Aunt Vadge: why have I had a small vaginal cut for a year?
A 19-year-old from North Carolina shares her concern about a small, non-healing cut on her vagina, experiencing discomfort and seeking advice. Aunt Vadge emphasizes the importance of medical evaluation to rule out infections or other health issues, highlighting the necessity of a nutrient-rich diet and proper vulva care for healing.
Aunt Vadge: painful sex that has resulted in a tear and brown discharge
A reader experiences painful sex resulting in a tear and subsequent brown discharge, seeking advice from Aunt Vadge. The response highlights the importance of addressing pain during sex immediately, suggests healing practices, and emphasizes the need for communication and exploration in sexual relationships to prevent such injuries. Practical advice on using more lube, engaging in non-penetrative sex play, and the importance of mutual understanding and exploration in sexual relationships is also provided.
Aunt Vadge: can fingering affect your body?
Fingering, a common sexual activity, does not affect your body's functions like menstruation but can cause vaginal pain if done roughly. It's important to understand the basics for safe exploration. Hormonal changes before your period can cause cravings and other premenstrual symptoms, unrelated to sexual activities.
Aunt Vadge: sore clitoris after fingering, but four days later it’s not better
A concern about a sore clitoris following fingering, with no improvement after six days, prompts advice on healing, identifying potential irritants, and when to consult a doctor. The article reassures that period blood won't infect the wound and suggests remedies like paw paw or vitamin E oil, while also advising on checking for trapped pubic hairs or signs of infection.
Aunt Vadge: I douched with apple cider vinegar, and now I see a cut
A 48-year-old from Nigeria shares her experience of douching with diluted apple cider vinegar, leading to a cut and persistent itch near her vaginal orifice. Aunt Vadge explains the potential low oestrogen levels due to menopause as a cause, advising against douching and suggesting a visit to the doctor for a proper diagnosis and treatment options.
Aunt Vadge: my vagina seems to be too tight – what can I do?
Aunt Vadge addresses concerns about vaginal tightness, emphasizing the importance of arousal, lubrication, and self-exploration. She advises on masturbation techniques, understanding one's body, and the role of the menstrual cycle in achieving sexual satisfaction. The advice includes debunking myths around the hymen and encouraging a journey of sexual self-discovery.
Aunt Vadge: naked grinding with precum – can I be pregnant?
A 20-year-old from South Africa shares her concerns about the possibility of pregnancy from precum during naked grinding, despite being on birth control and receiving a negative pregnancy test. Aunt Vadge provides insightful advice on understanding fertility, the effectiveness of birth control pills, and the importance of using period tracker apps to monitor ovulation and menstrual cycles. This guidance aims to alleviate fears and promote informed decisions regarding sexual health and contraception.
Aunt Vadge: is my girlfriend pregnant or is her period late?
A 13-year-old seeks advice on behalf of his girlfriend, worried about a late period and the possibility of pregnancy due to precum. Aunt Vadge offers guidance on pregnancy testing, understanding the menstrual cycle, and the implications of a missed period, including stress and travel factors. She also provides insights into medical abortions in England, emphasizing the importance of understanding one's body and the menstrual cycle for better reproductive health management.
Aunt Vadge: ripped my vagina during sex – what now?
Suffering from a vaginal tear during sex is not only painful but can lead to complications if not treated properly. This article offers essential advice on healing, preventing future injuries, and the importance of seeking medical advice to ensure your vaginal health is maintained. It highlights the need for proper lubrication, communication with your partner, and the significance of allowing your body to heal before engaging in sexual activity again.
Aunt Vadge: I haven’t had sex for two years – is my vag ok?
Aunt Vadge addresses concerns about the vagina's health and elasticity after not having penetrative sex for two years, debunking myths and reassuring that the vagina won't undergo any permanent changes from a lack of sex. The tone and elasticity are influenced by genetics, age, hormonal status, and pelvic floor muscle tone rather than sexual activity frequency.
Aunt Vadge: antibiotics for BV made everything worse and gave me a UTI
Robyn's tale unfolds a relentless battle with bacterial vaginosis (BV) exacerbated by antibiotics, leading to a UTI and a desperate search for lasting solutions. With a history of overusing antibiotics from Lyme disease to sinus infections, Robyn seeks Aunt Vadge's advice for a holistic approach to restore her body's balance and finally find relief from the recurring issues. Aunt Vadge's response offers not just empathy but a strategic plan to address the root causes, emphasizing the importance of understanding one's body and advocating for comprehensive care beyond temporary fixes.
Aunt Vadge: a vaginal infection that won’t go away
A 19-year-old seeks advice for a relentless vaginal infection, having tried various home remedies and prescribed antibiotics without success. The response highlights the importance of accurate diagnosis, the potential need for specific tests to identify the infection type, and the risks of self-treatment without knowing the exact cause. The advice underscores the necessity of professional medical guidance to tackle such persistent infections effectively.
Aunt Vadge: unusual bruised feeling in crease
A 20-year-old from Milton Keynes describes experiencing a bruised-like ache between her legs and vagina, alongside cuts on her labia during her period, suspecting an allergy to sanitary towels. Aunt Vadge suggests it could be contact dermatitis or a low-grade infection, advising a switch to hypoallergenic or organic menstrual products to alleviate symptoms and determine the cause.
Aunt Vadge: my boyfriend fingered me and went down on me and it hurt – why?
Aunt Vadge addresses a concern about pain during fingering and oral sex, explaining the importance of being turned on for a pleasurable experience. She advises on communication and understanding one's body to avoid discomfort and enhance sexual enjoyment.
Aunt Vadge: what’s wrong with my labia?
Addressing concerns about labia appearance, this article reassures that variations in size, color, and texture are normal post-puberty changes. It encourages self-acceptance, dispels myths of 'normality', and highlights the importance of embracing one's unique body. It also provides guidance on seeking professional advice if needed, while promoting a positive body image and self-love.
Aunt Vadge: my boyfriend can’t finger me without pain
A 21-year-old from Mexico shares her experience of pain and bleeding after being fingered by her boyfriend, suspecting hymen damage. Aunt Vadge advises on potential causes, including lack of arousal and anatomical factors, and suggests self-exploration, use of lubricants, and educational resources to better understand and manage vaginal health and sexual pleasure.
Aunt Vadge: weird dry, itchy bumps on my labia
Aunt Vadge addresses concerns about persistent itchy, dry bumps on the labia, discussing potential causes such as STIs, fungal infections, and skin conditions like genital psoriasis. She emphasizes the importance of seeing a doctor for a proper diagnosis and treatment options, including the possibility of steroid creams and naturopathic solutions.
Aunt Vadge: bleeding 3 days after fingering, fertile pre-cum
A reader expresses concern over light bleeding experienced three days after a rough fingering session, questioning its normalcy, the potential of pregnancy from pre-cum, and the importance of safe sex. Aunt Vadge reassures, educates on sexual health, and emphasizes the necessity of using protection to avoid STIs and unintended pregnancy, while also addressing the psychological aspect of readiness for sex.
Aunt Vadge: fingering questions – will I bleed again? Should I use lube?
Navigating the complexities of sexual exploration, Aunt Vadge addresses concerns about pain, bleeding, and the use of lubrication during fingering. With advice on gentle practices, the importance of arousal, and the role of lubricants, this article serves as a guide for safe and enjoyable sexual experiences, debunking myths about the impact on menstrual cycles and emphasizing communication and consent.
Aunt Vadge: my vagina doesn’t get wet
Vaginal dryness can be a distressing issue, impacting enjoyment and comfort during sex. This article explores practical solutions, including dietary adjustments and the potential benefits of L-arginine supplements, to address the problem. Enhancing blood flow and nitric oxide production might just be the key to improving vaginal lubrication and overall sexual function.
Aunt Vadge: I’m still grieving from my vulvectomy 14 years later
A vulvectomy, a significant physical and emotional event, can lead to profound grief. However, finding acceptance and the right psychological support can pave the way for healing and moving beyond the grief. It's about finding a specialist who resonates with you, akin to finding a pair of shoes that fit perfectly. With the right help, moving on from grief is not just a possibility but a path to thriving.
Aunt Vadge: double vagina – what are my options for surgery?
A 23-year-old woman discovers her 'double vagina' condition and explores surgical options to remove the dividing septum. The article details the process of finding a skilled surgeon, understanding the surgery's outcomes, and managing potential risks. It highlights the importance of expertise in treating this rare condition, offering hope and guidance for those seeking relief and a normal life.
Aunt Vadge: why does sex hurt my girlfriend so much?
Painful sex, known medically as dyspareunia, can stem from a lack of arousal, tension, or medical conditions like vulvodynia or vaginismus. Aunt Vadge advises on the importance of relaxation, foreplay, and understanding each other's bodies to overcome discomfort and improve sexual experiences. Exploring non-penetrative sex, focusing on pleasure over penetration, and seeking medical advice if necessary are key to a satisfying sex life.
Aunt Vadge: has fingering ruined my vagina?
Anxiety and concerns over vaginal health after rough fingering are addressed by Aunt Vadge, offering reassurance and advice on managing both physical and mental well-being. The response highlights the resilience of the vagina, the importance of managing anxiety, and practical tips for overall reproductive health.
Aunt Vadge: we’ve tried sex three times and it’s excruciating for her
Experiencing excruciating pain during sex is a sign that something is wrong. This guide provides essential advice on how to make sex enjoyable for beginners, emphasizing the importance of understanding female anatomy, arousal, and the need for mutual learning and communication. It highlights the necessity of stopping painful attempts at sex, learning about each other's bodies, and the potential need for medical investigation into anatomical issues.
Aunt Vadge: Bartholin abscess stitches still hurt
An individual recounts the painful experience of a Bartholin abscess and the subsequent surgery, now facing new pain in the stitches months later. Aunt Vadge advises seeking medical attention to rule out reoccurrence and discusses the impact of masturbation on the condition, suggesting a visit to a gynaecologist for tailored advice.
Aunt Vadge: itch and irritation after infections cleared
After battling bacterial vaginosis, Ureaplasma, and strep B, a woman continues to experience vaginal irritation, itching, and abnormal discharge despite negative test results for all infections. Aunt Vadge suggests the possibility of cytolytic vaginosis and recommends trying a baking soda douche for relief.
Aunt Vadge: trans man with a glans cut that won’t heal
A trans man struggles with a slow-healing cut on the glans, revealing the critical role of oestrogen in genital tissue repair. Learn about the use of oestrogen cream and other supportive treatments to address this issue, offering insights into managing low oestrogen levels and preventing atrophic vaginitis.
Aunt Vadge: my BV medicaid fell through – what can I do?
Facing the challenges of treating bacterial vaginosis (BV) without Medicaid can be daunting. This article explores effective, affordable solutions for managing BV, including the use of metronidazole and natural flora balance. It also emphasizes the importance of understanding vaginal health and seeking regular reproductive care to prevent recurrence.
Aunt Vadge: small, itchy fissure in labia minora won’t go away
A persistent fissure in the labia minora, possibly related to systemic conditions like eczema, can be troubling. This article explores potential causes such as immune-related issues and offers advice on dietary adjustments and soothing remedies to help manage and relieve symptoms. Understanding the importance of seeking medical advice for unresolved issues is also emphasized.
Aunt Vadge: BV, yeast, UTIs – nothing is working! Help!
Dealing with recurrent bacterial vaginosis, yeast infections, and UTIs can be frustrating. This article explores a multidisciplinary approach, including hormonal assessments, dietary changes, and the importance of gut health, to tackle these persistent issues. With advice on seeking specialist care and the potential benefits of supplements like shatavari, it offers hope and direction for those feeling desperate.
Aunt Vadge: vaginal fistula from cancer needs care
A 65-year-old woman, suffering from a large vaginal fistula due to radiation damage from cervical cancer, seeks advice on managing her condition while waiting for surgery. Aunt Vadge offers comprehensive guidance on diet, oestrogen therapy, tissue repair nutrients, and the importance of emotional support, highlighting the severe quality of life impacts that can follow cancer treatments.
Aunt Vadge: sex scratch that keeps bleeding
A tear between the vagina and urethra, especially one that bleeds, requires careful attention. Learn how to clean, protect, and expedite the healing process of such intimate wounds, including the use of vulva-safe creams and the importance of avoiding further irritation. Understand when it's crucial to consult a physician for persistent issues.
Aunt Vadge: can fresh semen on a toilet seat get me pregnant?
A common concern is whether sitting on fresh semen on a toilet seat can lead to pregnancy. Aunt Vadge clarifies that sperm, while mobile, cannot survive on surfaces or skin for long and are unlikely to cause pregnancy unless direct contact with the vagina occurs during ovulation. Understanding your menstrual cycle and the conditions sperm need to survive is key to assessing the risk.
Aunt Vadge: can I use the sticky end of a glue stick to masturbate?
Exploring masturbation is a normal and healthy part of sexual discovery, but it's crucial to do so safely. Aunt Vadge advises against using the sticky end of a glue stick due to potential infections and irritation, and instead, offers guidelines for choosing safer household items. The article emphasizes the importance of self-exploration, whether married or not, and provides practical tips for safe masturbation, including the use of vegetables and the importance of cleaning any items used.
Aunt Vadge: is there some kind of cherry to pop?
Aunt Vadge addresses a common concern among virgins about the hymen and 'popping the cherry.' With a focus on the importance of arousal, understanding one's anatomy, and engaging in foreplay, the article provides insightful advice for a comfortable and pleasurable first sexual experience. It emphasizes that pain during sex is never normal and provides tips for self-exploration and communication with partners to ensure a positive and safe sexual journey.
Aunt Vadge: I’m worried about bleeding scratches
A reader shares her concern about bleeding after her boyfriend fingered her for the first time, wondering if it's due to hymen breakage or vaginal scratches. Aunt Vadge reassures her, explaining the possible causes and emphasizing the importance of communication and understanding in sexual activities. She advises on the normalcy of the situation, how to heal, and improve future sexual experiences.
Aunt Vadge: sticky, spotting – will I be ok?
Spotting or bleeding after self-stimulation is not uncommon and often not dangerous. It might be due to minor cuts, hymen changes, or benign cysts. Understanding your body and recognizing when symptoms are normal or require medical attention is crucial. It's also important to address the feelings of shame, guilt, and anxiety that may arise, promoting a healthy relationship with your body and sexuality.
Aunt Vadge: I have a blister or sore on my labia and am not sure why
A blister or sore on the labia can stem from various causes, including sexually transmitted infections or benign conditions like ingrown hairs. It's essential to seek medical advice for unexplained sores or cuts on the labia to ensure proper diagnosis and treatment. Prompt attention to these symptoms can prevent complications and provide peace of mind.
Aunt Vadge: back and abdominal pain, bloating, gas, after first-time sex
After first-time sex, it's not uncommon to experience mild abdominal pain, bloating, and minor vaginal bleeding. These symptoms can be alarming but often have simple explanations and remedies. From understanding the impact of sexual activity on your body to easy, at-home solutions like strong peppermint tea, Aunt Vadge provides insightful advice to navigate these new sensations. Whether it's identifying potential infections or learning more about your anatomy, this article is a comforting guide for those new to sexual experiences.
Aunt Vadge: my partner just wants to finger me and try to make me squirt, but I hate it
A woman struggles with her partner's singular focus on fingering and female ejaculation, highlighting issues of sexual incompatibility and the impact of pornography on expectations. The advice given emphasizes the importance of communication, mutual satisfaction, and possibly seeking a sex therapist to navigate differing sexual desires and to foster a deeper connection.
Aunt Vadge: why can’t I go deeper?
Experiencing vaginal tightness can be a barrier to a fulfilling sex life, but it's a common issue with various solutions. From using toys and lubricants to seeking professional medical advice, there are steps you can take to overcome this challenge. Learn how to explore your body safely, address potential medical concerns like vaginismus, and find the right support to enjoy intimacy without discomfort.
Aunt Vadge: how do we have sex?
Embarking on your first sexual journey can be daunting, but Aunt Vadge provides comprehensive guidance on foreplay, communication, and comfort. Learn how to explore sexual pleasure with your partner through mutual understanding, preparation, and experimentation. Discover the importance of lubrication and the right approach to ensure a positive and enjoyable first experience.
Aunt Vadge: what does sex feel like?
Navigating the complexities of first-time sex can be daunting, especially without 'the talk'. Aunt Vadge offers a comprehensive guide on what to expect, debunking myths around the hymen, the importance of self-exploration, and practical tips for a positive sexual experience. Learn how to communicate with your partner, the significance of trust and coordination, and ways to explore your body for a fulfilling first-time encounter.
Aunt Vadge: Sex hurts and makes me bleed – what am I doing wrong?
Experiencing pain and bleeding during first-time sex can be distressing, but it's often due to vaginal tightness or anxiety. Learning to relax, understanding your anatomy, and proper preparation can significantly improve your experience. This article offers comprehensive guidance on navigating the complexities of first-time sex, addressing common concerns like vaginismus and anatomical abnormalities, and providing practical advice for a more enjoyable and less painful encounter.
Aunt Vadge: Did my partner give me a Gardnerella infection?
Gardnerella vaginalis is a common concern, often misunderstood as an STD. Aunt Vadge explains its transmission, debunking myths and offering guidance on managing bacterial vaginosis (BV). Learn about the role of sexual transmission, the importance of vaginal flora, and get expert advice on overcoming this infection with comprehensive treatment options.
Aunt Vadge: the condom caused cuts and sores – why?
Experiencing pain and discomfort from condom-induced cuts? Aunt Vadge offers expert advice on healing and preventing sores, highlighting the importance of lubrication and gentle care. Learn how to soothe your skin and what to avoid during recovery.
Aunt Vadge: my husband’s penis is so big it splits me every time we have sex
A woman experiences recurrent fissuring due to her husband's large penis size, raising concerns about lichen sclerosus and seeking advice on managing genital mismatch in a relationship. The article provides insights on the importance of healing, alternative intimacy methods, and professional guidance to navigate this challenge.
Aunt Vadge: are there women who don’t like vaginal sex?
Aunt Vadge addresses a common query: Are there women who don't enjoy vaginal sex, preferring other forms of stimulation like oral and fingering? She reassures that sexual preferences vary widely, and what matters most is mutual satisfaction and exploring what works for you. Normality in sexual pleasure is diverse, and communication with your partner is key to a fulfilling sexual relationship.
Aunt Vadge: his penis touched the outside – can I be pregnant?
Aunt Vadge addresses concerns about pregnancy from external genital contact, explaining the low likelihood and emphasizing the importance of understanding fertility and menstrual cycles. She reassures that symptoms like lower back pain and sore boobs are more likely due to hormonal fluctuations rather than early pregnancy signs, and advises on taking a pregnancy test for peace of mind while also learning more about one's cycle to better manage such worries in the future.
Aunt Vadge: burning after being fingered during my period
A young woman experiences burning after being fingered during her period, raising concerns about vaginal health. The article explores reasons behind the discomfort, including lack of lubrication and improper technique, and offers advice on ensuring vaginal readiness for penetration to prevent damage and pain. It emphasizes the importance of foreplay, self-exploration, and communication in sexual activities.
Aunt Vadge: my daughter is having problems passing urine
A mother expresses concern over her 12-year-old daughter's difficulty in passing urine and inflammation. Aunt Vadge advises seeking immediate medical attention to diagnose the potential blockage or underlying issues, emphasizing the importance of professional healthcare over internet solutions.
Aunt Vadge: sex and fingering – am I pregnant?
Aunt Vadge addresses a common concern about the possibility of pregnancy from fingering after protected sex. She reassures that pregnancy requires semen/sperm and ovulation, and emphasizes the value of tracking menstrual cycles to understand fertility better.
Aunt Vadge: can a doctor see scars in my vagina?
Aunt Vadge addresses concerns about whether doctors can detect scars from vaginal tears, explaining how the healing process and the nature of vaginal tissue can affect visibility. She highlights that deep tears may leave more noticeable scar tissue, while many heal without scarring, thanks to the elasticity and unique structure of vaginal walls.
Aunt Vadge: so much blood after fingering – what’s wrong?
A significant concern for many, unexpected vaginal bleeding post-fingering can stem from various causes such as hymen tears, vaginal septums, or other less common issues. It's crucial to keep the area clean and avoid further irritation. Seeking medical advice, even discreetly, is advised to address potential anatomical abnormalities or to ensure proper healing. This article guides through understanding and managing unexpected bleeding, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and professional consultation.
Aunt Vadge: I was fingered now my period is late – am I pregnant?
A reader worries about a delayed period following fingering, questioning the possibility of pregnancy. Aunt Vadge reassures that pregnancy from fingering is unlikely, advising on understanding ovulation and menstrual cycles for peace of mind and protection against unwanted pregnancy.
Aunt Vadge: rough fingering left me weeping
After a rough fingering incident, complications like swelling, redness, and oozing may indicate an infection, not just a yeast infection as initially diagnosed. Immediate medical attention is advised to address potential infections and promote healing. Understanding the risks and proper care post-injury is essential for recovery and future sexual health.
My vulva seems to smell a bit at the end of the day – do I still have BV?
Concerns about vaginal odour can be perplexing, especially when trying to distinguish between normal body scents and potential signs of bacterial vaginosis (BV). Aunt Vadge explains the nuances of vulva odour, highlighting how everyday life and hygiene practices contribute to natural scents, and provides insights on identifying and addressing microbial imbalances.
Aunt Vadge: deep cut on inner labia – will it heal by itself?
A deep cut on the inner labia, though alarming, often heals well on its own, akin to mucous membrane injuries elsewhere. Immediate care involves gentle cleansing and avoiding irritation, with a visit to the doctor recommended if the cut worsens or fails to improve. Understanding the healing process and when to seek medical advice is crucial for recovery.
Aunt Vadge: my LEEP procedure sample was too burnt to test – what now?
Burnt samples from a LEEP procedure are a known complication due to the electric current used during the excision. This article explains why it happens and what steps to take if your LEEP sample was too burnt to test, including the importance of consulting with your doctor for further advice and potential next steps.
Aunt Vadge: why did I bleed a few days before my period was due?
Aunt Vadge addresses concerns about bleeding a few days before the expected period, explaining the variability of menstrual cycles and when to actually worry. The article demystifies pre-period bleeding, reassures on the normalcy of cycle changes, and highlights the importance of understanding one's own body and menstrual health.
Aunt Vadge: fingering cut is healed, but when can I have sex again?
After sustaining a cut in the vaginal area, it's crucial to allow proper healing before resuming sexual activities. This article guides you through the healing process, from immediate care to understanding when your body is ready for sex again, with insights on how skin regeneration works and the significance of scar tissue appearance.
Aunt Vadge: Why did sex work the first time, but was impossible the second?
Aunt Vadge addresses concerns about painful sex, emphasizing the importance of relaxation, communication, and lubrication. She reassures that experiencing pain during sex is common but solvable with the right approach, including ensuring mutual enjoyment and experimenting with what feels good. The key is to make sex a pleasurable experience for both partners.
Aunt Vadge: will my vulvar tear get infected?
A concern about a vulvar tear from fingering leading to infection is addressed with advice on keeping the area clean and dry for quick healing. Recovery time can be swift, with proper care ensuring the wound heals within days to a week.
Aunt Vadge: how do I remove dark spots on my labia?
Aunt Vadge addresses concerns about dark spots on the labia, explaining they are normal pigmentation changes. She emphasizes the importance of self-acceptance and body positivity, discouraging the pursuit of unnecessary cosmetic procedures. The article encourages readers to appreciate their bodies as they are, highlighting the uniqueness and beauty of individual differences.
Aunt Vadge: tear that hasn’t healed in three months
A three-month-old labial tear can indicate underlying health issues, from yeast infections to autoimmune conditions. Discover home care tips and the importance of medical consultation for persistent vaginal tears.
Aunt Vadge: could I be pregnant if I had my period?
Aunt Vadge addresses concerns about the possibility of pregnancy after unprotected sex and missed birth control pills, even when a period has occurred. She explains the importance of consistent pill usage, the implications of missed doses, and the distinction between a withdrawal bleed and a natural period. For those who've had unprotected sex and are unsure about their contraceptive efficacy, Aunt Vadge advises taking a pregnancy test, using backup contraception, and consulting healthcare providers for further guidance.
Aunt Vadge: paper cuts around clitoris
Experiencing paper cut-like tears around the clitoris can be alarming. Aunt Vadge explains that ongoing yeast infections can cause the skin to tear more easily, especially in the delicate areas of the vulva. She advises on keeping the area clean, dry, and moisturised, and suggests treating any underlying yeast infections to prevent further cuts.
Aunt Vadge: post-sex and fingering blood and swelling
If sex or fingering causes pain and bleeding, it's a sign of incorrect practice. Discover how proper arousal, foreplay, and understanding your body can lead to enjoyable, pain-free sex. Aunt Vadge advises on the importance of being fully aroused and wet before penetration to prevent damage, and the need for personal exploration to understand what truly turns you on. Learn to communicate your needs and explore non-penetrative sex to build arousal, ensuring a satisfying sexual experience without pain or bleeding.
Aunt Vadge: itching, bleeding, and a bad smell after attempted sex and fingering
Experiencing itching, a foul odour, and bleeding after attempted sex and fingering can indicate a bacterial imbalance or infection, necessitating a visit to the doctor for a proper diagnosis. Aunt Vadge provides advice on addressing these intimate health concerns, emphasizing the importance of sexual education and communication between partners.
Aunt Vadge: why is my vagina suddenly black?
A sudden change in the colour of the vagina to black can be alarming and may indicate serious health issues. It's essential to seek medical advice promptly to determine the cause, which could range from damaged blood supply to severe bruising. Aunt Vadge emphasizes the importance of not delaying a visit to the doctor to ensure proper diagnosis and treatment.
Aunt Vadge: Frequent UTIs, soreness around vagina after sex
Frequent UTIs and vaginal soreness after sex can be distressing, but Aunt Vadge explains that proper sexual hygiene, ensuring adequate lubrication, and maintaining a healthy gut microbiome can significantly reduce these issues. Understanding the anatomy, such as the perineum's length, and practicing good hygiene, like urinating after sex, are key. Additionally, addressing gut health through fermented foods or probiotics can improve overall resistance to infections.
Aunt Vadge: Constant UTIs and thrush
Dealing with recurrent urinary tract infections (UTIs) and thrush can be a daunting experience. This comprehensive guide explores the underlying causes, such as bacterial imbalances and lifestyle factors, and offers practical solutions like probiotics and hygiene practices to restore your vaginal health. Learn how to manage your high libido and prevent infections, ensuring a healthier and more comfortable sexual life.
Aunt Vadge: smelly discharge, no infection – what’s wrong with me?
Dealing with persistent vaginal odour can be distressing, especially when tests for infections come back negative. This article explores a potential cause - a mild bacterial imbalance, not classified as an infection, and offers a variety of natural remedies aimed at rebalancing the vaginal microflora. From high-dose probiotics to homemade milk kefir, and even the use of garlic or hydrogen peroxide, these solutions target the restoration of healthy lactobacilli levels, aiming to eliminate the odour and restore confidence.
Aunt Vadge: We hit a lump – what is it?
Experiencing a lump in the vagina can be alarming. Aunt Vadge explains that vaginal lumps can range from benign growths to anatomical features. It's essential to conduct self-examinations and seek medical advice for any concerns. Regular Pap tests are also crucial for maintaining vaginal health and early detection of possible issues.
Aunt Vadge: itchy, swollen, cottage cheese discharge – what’s wrong with me?
A 16-year-old girl experiences a post-antibiotic yeast infection, resulting in itchy, swollen labia and cottage cheese-like discharge. Aunt Vadge advises on dietary changes, repopulating good bacteria, and using tea tree oil and yoghurt douches as treatments. The importance of maintaining vaginal health through good bacteria and safe sex practices is emphasized.
Aunt Vadge: fingering has left me in severe pain
A reader shares a distressing experience of severe pain and ulcers following fingering, highlighting the importance of lubrication and the potential for underlying conditions that require professional medical evaluation. Aunt Vadge advises seeking immediate medical attention to rule out conditions such as vesiculobullous vulvar dermatoses and emphasizes the urgency of professional diagnosis and treatment.
Aunt Vadge: my vagina is sore and itchy after a rough fingering
After a rough fingering session, it's common to feel soreness and itchiness due to potential damage to the vulva and vagina. Aunt Vadge advises on the importance of proper technique and how to heal, emphasizing that such discomfort should not be a norm and can be prevented with better awareness and guidance.
Aunt Vadge: my vagina smells like something died in it
Experiencing a foul smell from your vagina can be alarming. Aunt Vadge highlights common causes such as bacterial vaginosis and sexually transmitted infections, emphasizing the importance of testing to identify the specific issue for effective treatment. Whether it's a simple bacterial imbalance or something requiring antibiotics, understanding the root cause is the first step to addressing vaginal odour.
Aunt Vadge: I got Implanon, and now I’m feeling crappy
The Implanon contraceptive implant, secreting progestin, can significantly alter menstrual cycles and potentially lead to mood changes and decreased libido. While some women adapt well, others may find the side effects challenging, prompting a reevaluation of contraceptive choices. This article delves into the function of progestin, its impact on the body, and personal experiences with Implanon, offering insights into alternative contraception methods and the importance of a healthy menstrual cycle.
Aunt Vadge: mysterious red, raised lesion between my labia
A 28-year-old from Colorado shares her experience with a persistent, mysterious labial lesion, initially diagnosed as bacterial vaginosis but not fully resolved despite treatment. The article explores potential causes such as lichenoid disorders, genital psoriasis, and precancerous changes, emphasizing the importance of specialist consultation and a proactive approach to diagnosis and treatment.
Aunt Vadge: my boyfriend is upset because I don’t orgasm easily
The article addresses a woman's concern about her difficulty in reaching orgasm and her boyfriend's reaction to it. It explores the importance of understanding and catering to each partner's sexual needs, the role of oral sex, and the negative impact of pressure and criticism on sexual satisfaction. Aunt Vadge emphasizes the need for open communication, mutual respect, and the exploration of pleasure beyond penetration to foster a fulfilling sexual relationship.
Aunt Vadge: post-antibiotic fissures – what can I do?
After a course of antibiotics for a UTI, experiencing vaginal fissures can be alarming. Aunt Vadge advises on the importance of restoring the vaginal microbiome with high-quality probiotics and dietary changes to aid healing. She highlights when it's crucial to consult a doctor and how to prevent further irritation and infection, emphasizing a healthy bacterial balance for overall vaginal health.
Aunt Vadge: sex mishap has split my vulva
A significant vulvar tear during sexual activity can be alarming. While vulvar tissue typically heals quickly and without scarring, a tear as large as an inch necessitates proper care. This article explores when it's critical to seek medical intervention, how to prevent infection, and the importance of proper wound care to ensure healing without disfigurement.
Aunt Vadge: I plucked my pubic hair and now have red bumps – why?
Plucking pubic hair can lead to folliculitis, an inflammation of the hair follicle, especially if the hair hasn't completed its growth cycle. Aunt Vadge explains the causes of these red bumps and offers tips on reducing inflammation and preventing infection, emphasizing the importance of understanding hair growth cycles and gentle skin care.
Aunt Vadge: my boyfriend was rough on my clit, now it’s swollen
Experiencing swelling and discomfort after rough clitoral stimulation is common, but manageable. Aunt Vadge recommends using lubricating oils like coconut or olive oil to reduce friction, applying cold packs for swelling, and over-the-counter anti-inflammatories for pain relief. She emphasizes the importance of communication and setting boundaries with your partner to prevent future discomfort.
Aunt Vadge: I spot for a few days after sex with my boyfriend – why?
Spotting after sex is a symptom that can arise from various factors including insufficient arousal, use of condoms without lube, or medical conditions like cervical ectropion. Understanding your body's signals and cycle, alongside ensuring proper lubrication and arousal before penetration, can help mitigate this issue. If the problem persists, seeking medical advice is recommended to rule out any underlying conditions.
Aunt Vadge: I did the antibiotics, but I’ve still got urinary tract symptoms – help!
After taking antibiotics for a UTI, Jade still experiences symptoms like burning during urination and frequent need to pee. Aunt Vadge suggests exploring causes beyond typical UTIs, such as ureaplasma or mycoplasma infections, interstitial cystitis, pelvic floor dysfunction, and post-infection inflammation. She offers practical advice and underscores the importance of seeking further medical evaluation for persistent urinary tract symptoms.
Aunt Vadge: chronic vaginal pain and redness
Living Desperate shares her 3.5-year struggle with chronic vaginal pain and redness after using shea butter Vaseline as a lubricant. Despite various treatments, the condition persisted, affecting her life and sexual health. Aunt Vadge offers insights into vulvodynia, a complex condition, emphasising the importance of understanding body responses and exploring holistic treatments to find relief.
Aunt Vadge: I bled after fingering, but now there’s a lump – what is it?
Aunt Vadge addresses concerns about bleeding and a lump found after fingering, advising on natural healing and the importance of communication and gentleness during sexual activities. She emphasizes the necessity of being vocal about discomfort during sex and provides tips for soothing the area while it heals.
Aunt Vadge: why is my vagina sore after dry humping?
Aunt Vadge addresses concerns about soreness after dry humping, debunking pregnancy myths and offering advice on avoiding discomfort while maintaining intimacy. She emphasizes the importance of reducing friction by choosing smoother fabrics and being mindful of the vulva's need for slipperiness, providing practical tips for safer and more comfortable experiences.
Aunt Vadge: three small flesh-coloured growths under urethra – it’s been months!
A 26-year-old female describes noticing three small, flesh-coloured, rice grain-shaped growths under the urethra, seeking advice on their nature. The response emphasizes the importance of a medical examination for an accurate diagnosis, mentioning that such lumps are usually benign but require professional assessment to explore treatment options.
Aunt Vadge: small, red, tender lump near clitoris
A small, red, tender lump near the clitoris can be concerning, but it's often a simple pimple or ingrown hair. Aunt Vadge explains how to identify and treat these common issues safely at home, ensuring hygiene to prevent infection. There's no need for panic; with proper care, the discomfort and the lump itself will typically resolve.
Aunt Vadge: I was finger-raped
A personal account of non-consensual fingering opens a discussion on consent, the emotional and physical repercussions, and the path to recovery. Aunt Vadge offers advice on recognizing trauma, seeking help, and the importance of consent in sexual experiences. The article emphasizes self-care, the necessity of addressing trauma, and the power of saying no to protect one's wellbeing.
Aunt Vadge: two fingers or one?
Embarking on sexual adventures can be both exciting and daunting. This article addresses a young girl's concerns about being fingered for the first time, emphasizing the importance of understanding one's own body, the potential discomfort from using two fingers without prior sexual experience, and the significance of mutual pleasure and communication in such intimate moments. It also highlights the crucial role of the clitoris in sexual pleasure, debunking misconceptions about fingering and penetration.
Aunt Vadge: long-running cut and thickened vulvar skin
A 57-year-old from the UK shares her concerns about a persistent cut and thickened skin above her clitoris, seeking advice from Aunt Vadge. The response highlights the importance of seeing a vulvovaginal specialist, managing stress, and considering potential conditions like lichenoid conditions or dermatitis. Stress management, proper diagnosis, and self-care are emphasized as crucial steps for recovery and maintaining vulvar health.
Aunt Vadge: I only do anal with my boyfriend to stay a virgin, but it hurts
The article addresses the discomfort and pain associated with anal sex for a 19-year-old seeking to maintain her virginity while pleasing her partner. Aunt Vadge offers advice on communication, trust, and tips for a better anal sex experience, emphasizing the importance of comfort, consent, and enjoyment in any form of intimacy.