Aunt Vadge: it stings when I pee – can I still have sex?

Dear Aunt Vadge,

My boyfriend and I had sex for the first time last weekend (four days ago). The day before we had sex, I started bleeding a little from my vagina, nothing much. My period has been irregular ever since I took the…. Uh… Don’t know the English word for it, but it is basically a little stick in my arm that prevents me from getting pregnant for the next three years [Implanon hormonal implant]

Anyway, I still bleed a little and have some discharge ever since we had sex. The problem is that when I pee it really stings. It doesn’t sting all the time, just when I am almost done peeing, the last few drops sting like hell. I am getting worried something might be wrong.  I really don’t want to contact a doctor, since I am terrified of them.

Do you think it is a bad idea to have sex with him again this weekend? I know for sure he is gonna try, and I really want too unless there is something wrong with my vagina. Lots of love from freezing Norway, hope you answer soon :)! 

Freezing Cold from Norway
Norway, Age 16

Hello our Norwegian friend,

You sound like you have the smallest irritation, inflammation and possibly a small infection in your urethra, known as a urinary tract infection (UTI) or urethritis.

This can be fixed at home, since it seems extremely mild and not a big deal. Check out our UTI page for the reflexology treatment (I’ve done this a thousand times and it works perfectly if you stick at it and get the right point), and follow our tips on how to eliminate the infection. Here is the main overview of how to fix a UTI at home.

The weekend has now been and gone (sorry we were too slow!), so you may or may not have had sex (but probably!), and just so you know, it’s best to clear up these sorts of infections and learn how to prevent them occurring again in the future. It’s part of your learning about sexual hygiene, which you will need your whole life. UTIs are terrible, so learn how to avoid them like the plague.

Sexual hygiene generally means peeing right after sex or sexual activities, making sure your boyfriend has clean hands and penis, rinsing down after sexual activity when it seems like you should, and completely avoiding any contact with anyone’s butthole then your vagina – no double dipping, or accidental double dipping, or accidental butthole touching then touching your vagina.

You really don’t need to be militant about this (most people don’t do this stuff unless they are prone to infections) but be aware if you feel the first tingles of an infection, just nail it with non-antibiotic treatments to make it go away. They don’t tend to just disappear by themselves, though they can. It’s best to attack them immediately to avoid any escalation. They are really uncomfortable. Once you have the reflexology points found and used, you can use this anytime anywhere.

Almost all germs that cause UTIs come from the anus, and with a wet vagina, it’s basically a wet anus too, and then it all intermingles and … you get the idea. Just be cautious. Your body has warned you that whatever you’ve been doing needs attention.

There are loads of things you can do to get rid of this, and it shouldn’t take much. I’d start with effective and free reflexology. Take your time, look online for other diagrams, and drink plenty of water with it so you can quickly test if it’s worked – if it’s worked, you’ll not feel anything at all when you pee, just like normal.

If you have any trouble with the reflexology, let us know. We’d love to help. We love reflexology!

Warmest regards,
Aunt Vadge