It’s important to say nice things to your lady friends to make them feel good. That’s right. We need it. We want it. It’s science!
It’s important to tell your lover that you appreciate them, their body and their sexuality. Positive affirmations go a long way to reassuring us that we are liked and appreciated, even if we seem confident in other ways.
Women, in particular, may need to feel desired to feel turned on (read: to trust that you actually like her and think she is beautiful), so make sure you offer these sweet affirmations to your lover regularly, no matter how serious your relationship is or isn’t.
- Say nice (true) things
- Be genuine
- Be kind
- Be sweet
- Be sensual
- Find things that nobody else has found that are nice – keep cliches out of your sex life
It’s biology. We’re not just compliment leeches.
Women are (often) sensitive about their bodies, and need to be told their vagina is delicious, their lips are luscious and their body is beautiful.
Don’t be fake – find something you really like, and then say it’s beautiful or tastes good or smells good. Your positive affirmations sink into her brain and soon enough, her body will respond to the input. That is, that you find her delicious and beautiful. (Read: she can trust you.)
How to learn about our biological sexual cues the fun way
Read A Billion Wicked Thoughts – it is a really brilliant research study into our sexual cues based on the internet, and if we all read it, we’d become less weird about what turns us on. It’s a great read. You’ll love it. Promise.
This particular sexual cue in heterosexual women is the irresistibility cue. That is, she needs to know that you find her utterly irresistible, and you can do that by saying nice things. It’s easier than you think!
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