Dear Aunt Vadge,
I am 16 from the USA.
My pain started a day ago. The day before, my boyfriend was fingering me and went pretty deep, then continued for a while. During fingering I started bleeding a lot, and it was a lighter color red than my period normally is.
Now afterwards, it burns to pee, is red around the vagina, & is very sore. His nails are cut fairly short, so could he of just cut me? Or is it possible my hymen tore a little?
There really hasn’t been any change in pain, so I can’t really tell what it is.
Yours,
Unknown
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Hi there Unknown,
If you haven’t put anything into your vagina before your boyfriend’s fingers went in, it’s very possible that your hymen stretched and tore a bit.
The good news here is that once your hymen is stretched and broken, it won’t happen again. If it only partially stretched and tore it a little, there may be a small bit more to go before your hymen is out of the picture.
Bright red blood indicates fresh blood, and if you don’t have your period, then that can be ruled out. The soreness you feel around the entrance to your vagina may well be from your hymenal tissue being stretched and torn a bit. This will heal.
Read our article on healing vaginal and vulvar cuts and tears if you get stuck.
Hymens are actually pretty elastic, and everyone is a bit different. Your vagina will heal up in a few days, and the bleeding will stop. If it doesn’t, please see a doctor or sexual health clinic in person to be examined. It’s better to be safe than sorry!
But, it sounds like your boyfriend was a bit rough, and that’s why it hurts to pee and your other symptoms of redness and soreness. If these symptoms don’t resolve completely, please see your healthcare provider for help. Don’t let these symptoms linger.
You and your boyfriend should read the fingering how-to so you both know what should be going on – normally pain after fingering is a sign of poor technique, but it can also be a normal part of becoming sexually active and breaking open a thick hymen.
Sincerely,
Aunt Vadge
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