Would a girl feel it if the tip went in?

Author: Aunt Vadge
Qualified Naturopath | BHSc(N)

Last reviewed: July 2, 2026

Hello Aunt Vadge,

My girlfriend and I were talking about our sexual histories, and she says she’s a virgin. She was involved with someone before in the sense that they had a lot of foreplay, and she mentioned he rubbed his penis on her vaginal opening. Since I’ve never had sex, a couple of questions came into my head.

1) Is it possible for the tip of the penis to get inside the vaginal opening without any pressure – would it just slide in if a girl is a virgin?

2) Would a girl know that the tip went in?

I know these are sort of weird questions, but I’m curious because I don’t know much about sex or female anatomy.

Thanks in advance,
Unsure
Age 18, Mexico

Hello Unsure,

Good questions, and no need to feel odd asking them – this is exactly the stuff nobody teaches us. Let’s take them one at a time.

Can the tip slip in without any pressure?

Getting even the tip of a penis into the vagina usually takes a bit of guidance and some gentle pressure. If a woman is really relaxed, aroused and well lubricated, it can go in more easily – but it’s not the kind of thing that tends to happen by accident, without anyone meaning to or noticing.

For what it’s worth, ‘virgin’ usually means someone who hasn’t had penis-in-vagina sex, though how people define virginity varies a lot from person to person and culture to culture.

Would she know if the tip went in?

Almost certainly, yes. That area is packed with sensitive nerve endings, so there’s usually a clear awareness of penetration – especially the first time it happens. The exact sensation varies from woman to woman, but it’s not something that generally goes unnoticed.

On the hymen: it’s a thin membrane that partly covers the vaginal opening in some women, and it’s long been wrongly treated as a ‘proof’ of virginity. In reality it can stretch or wear away from all sorts of non-sexual things like sport or tampons, and it can also stay largely intact after sexual activity. So the state of a hymen tells you very little about anyone’s sexual history.

The bigger thing here, though: your girlfriend’s definition of virginity and her past experiences are hers to define. Talk openly, take things at a pace you’re both happy with, and make sure everything happens with clear consent and mutual understanding.

If either of you has more questions about sex, anatomy or sexual health, have a read of Vag Basics, how to have sex 101, our guide to cunnilingus, and fingering basics. Learning this stuff is a brilliant way to set yourselves up for a healthy, enjoyable sex life.

Warmest regards,
Aunt Vadge

This is general information, not a substitute for personalised medical advice.