Aunt Vadge: fingering has left me in severe pain

TL;DR

A reader shares a distressing experience of severe pain and ulcers following fingering, highlighting the importance of lubrication and the potential for underlying conditions that require professional medical evaluation. Aunt Vadge advises seeking immediate medical attention to rule out conditions such as vesiculobullous vulvar dermatoses and emphasizes the urgency of professional diagnosis and treatment.

Dear Aunt Vadge,

I was fingered recently (not the first time) but have been left in severe pain. 

  • It looks like there are ulcers and cuts down there. Using a hand mirror there are ulcers visible, only one outside the outer lips (on an area with pubic hair) and the rest are inside the lips (on areas which are more tender flesh). 
  • It is itchy and burnt and particularly painful when urinating, there is like a constant burning sensation around my vagina.
  • It was sore at the time, and no lubrication was used and nothing else was stuck into my vagina. 
  • I was fingered for quite a while, on and off, for about two hours on two nights last week (Tuesday and Thursday).
  • I would say the ulcers appeared about three days after. 
  • We both touched each other’s genitals, but there is no risk of STIs as both my partner and I are clean of STIs. 

It is not getting better; if anything it is getting worse. I’m 17. What should I do?

Yours,
Ulcerated

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Dear Ulcerated,

Your symptoms don’t seem to be simply related to fingering injuries – ulcers that appear after three days are not a symptom that matches this problem.

Severe pain is worrisome too, so sadly you are going to need to go and see a professional to be examined and to rule out other problems.

The ulcers may be caused by something called vesiculobullous vulvar dermatoses, which could be a variation of vulvodynia, lichen sclerosus, genital psoriasis, or in fact a big fat handful of other conditions that require your full medical history and health analysis to even begin to talk about.

Before you get scared, however, it’s important that you go and see your doctor or sexual health clinic, and get examined and referred on as appropriate.

It may just be severe fingering wounds that are extra painful. Read our article on healing vaginal and vulvar cuts and tears if you get stuck. Book an appointment ASAP.

Warmest regards,
Aunt Vadge  



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