Aunt Vadge: I’m worried that I hurt myself… or is it my period?

Aunt Vadge, please help me, I’m extremely worried.

Yesterday I was fingering myself (with just one finger, I’m a virgin and this was the fourth time I did it) and I was completely wet, it wasn’t hurting or anything like the first few times I did it, and my nails weren’t long. Once I stopped I looked at my finger and it had blood on it, also my pants did too and it wasn’t very vivid red but a bit dark. I put on a pad as my period was supposed to start around this time anyways.

Then I went researching and I’m kinda scared I broke my hymen or hurt myself. Usually I don’t get cramps before my period, but on the second day, which I did, and usually the blood isn’t too much on the first day, but on the second, which happened too.

Did I get my period or did I cut myself or break my hymen?

Ps: It’s still bleeding, more than yesterday, which wouldn’t make much sense if I ripped something.


Hi there Bleeding,

It sounds very much like you have your period! If you have fingered yourself before, then your hymen is probably long gone. Lots of blood is also unusual with the hymen being torn, so lots of blood sounds like your period, which you mention was due. You can rest assured you appear to be completely normal.

Your period can and does change every time you get it, and while sometimes you will have the same symptoms every month, sometimes your symptoms will be different or unusual on any day of your period. This is because every symptom you get – cramping, breast tenderness, PMS, etc. – are a direct representation of what is going on in your body.

For example, if you had been eating a lot of fish, you may well get less period cramps and not suffer as much PMS, but if you ate a lot of junk food and soda, you will probably get worse PMS and cramping, since the anti-inflammatory properties aren’t present in your diet. Your cycle could change length too, but only for one cycle. Weird stuff happens all the time, which is why period tracker apps are great – you can record your symptoms and correlate them with other events. Travel and stress, for example, are known to delay ovulation, which in turn delays your period.

You sound like you have it all under control and you should definitely not worry that you have hurt yourself. You would know about it, because you would feel pain – if there is no pain, you’re fine.

If you need more help, write anytime.

Warmest regards,
Aunt Vadge

Jessica Lloyd - Naturopathic Practitioner, BHSc(N)

Jessica Lloyd - Naturopathic Practitioner, BHSc(N)

Jessica is a degree-qualified naturopath (BHSc) specialising in vulvovaginal health and disease, based in Melbourne, Australia.

Jessica is the owner and lead naturopath of My Vagina, and is a member of the:

  • International Society for the Study of Vulvovaginal Disease (ISSVD)
  • International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health (ISSWSH)
  • National Vulvodynia Association (NVA) Australia
  • New Zealand Vulvovaginal Society (ANZVS)
  • Australian Traditional Medicine Society (ATMS)
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