Aunt Vadge: did I lose my virginity or is this my period? Or both?

Hello Aunt, 

Yesterday my boyfriend entered his penis by mistake to my vagina, but not deep at all, I just felt something and at the same moment I thought I was bleeding and lost my virginity because there was lots of blood. But, today when I woke up I found out the am having my period, and it’s the same blood, which didn’t seem to stop. The question is, did I lose my virginity or is it just my period and he helped it to go out easier? Plus I didn’t have any pain till now coming from my vagina.

Please respond as soon as possible, as I am so worried. 


Dear Worried,

The blood is almost certainly your period and there is no need to worry unless there was pain.

The virginity question is actually a sort of complicated thing, since virginity isn’t a real thing. It’s a made-up word that doesn’t very clearly cover sex in all of it’s forms. It mainly means ‘a penis in a vagina’, which technically, you sort of did, but it wasn’t the whole penis, ‘so does it count?’. These are valid questions.

We’ve tried to answer the virginity question here, so have a read and see what you think!

Write anytime.
Warmest regards,
Aunt Vadge


Jessica Lloyd - Naturopathic Practitioner, BHSc(N)

Jessica Lloyd - Naturopathic Practitioner, BHSc(N)

Jessica is a degree-qualified naturopath (BHSc) specialising in vulvovaginal health and disease, based in Melbourne, Australia.

Jessica is the owner and lead naturopath of My Vagina, and is a member of the:

  • International Society for the Study of Vulvovaginal Disease (ISSVD)
  • International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health (ISSWSH)
  • National Vulvodynia Association (NVA) Australia
  • New Zealand Vulvovaginal Society (ANZVS)
  • Australian Traditional Medicine Society (ATMS)
Read more about Jessica and My Vagina's origin story.