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Hey Aunt Vadge,
Whenever I get fingered and my boyfriend massages my clit, my legs shake uncontrollably. Why does this happen, and how can I make it stop?
Regards,
Shakey
South Africa
Hi there Shakey,
Thanks for writing. First things first – this is normal, and more common than you’d think. Shaky, trembling legs when your clitoris is being stimulated are an involuntary nervous-system response. Nothing’s wrong, and it doesn’t need fixing unless it bothers you.
Your clitoris has a remarkably rich nerve supply that loops around through your pelvis and hips, so when it’s stimulated, that excitement can carry over into nearby muscles and set your legs shaking. In some people the wiring just carries the signal more strongly than in others. Yours might simply be on the livelier end of normal.
If you’d like to take the edge off it, here’s something to experiment with.
The idea is to desensitise the nerve a little. A nerve is at its most sensitive when it hasn’t been touched, and it settles with firmer or repeated stimulation. So steady, firm pressure on the clitoris tends to dull the response, where light, teasing pressure ramps it up. Playing with pressure before or during stimulation may calm the shaking.
If you ever get shaking that’s painful, doesn’t settle after sex, or comes with numbness or weakness, mention it to a doctor. But a bit of happy leg-trembling during a good time is usually just your body enjoying itself.
Write anytime.
Warmest regards,
Aunt Vadge
This is general information, not a substitute for personalised medical advice.
