Aunt Vadge: She has ripped her vagina “masturbating” – is my fiance cheating on me?

Hi Aunt Vadge,

My fiancé went out one night, went home with one of my good friends and his wife, on her period, got in the hot tub with them. Four days later she has a UTI; two weeks later still UTI; then it turned into a yeast infection. The following week it turned into ‘I masturbated to hard in the bathtub, ripped my clit’.

I’m not stupid! I know she’s been cheating. This whole ripped my left ‘flap’ ‘vulva’ was the last straw. Is it possible to tear your vagina lip in the bathtub while masturbating?

I need help please!

Sincerely,
Worried

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Hi there Worried,

Whether your fiance is cheating on you is impossible for me to say – that is a conversation you will need to have with her. What I can say, is that it is definitely possible to tear the vagina and vulva during masturbating, bathtub or no bathtub. The most common ways to tear the vagina – which is just as delicate as your penile and scrotal tissue – is with a fingernail or another object (dildo, hairbrush, whatever) during masturbating. We get a bit rough, and things happen that we can’t really feel until afterwards.

Infections also happen all the time, and some women are prone to UTIs and yeast infections. Besides a sexually transmissible infection – which UTIs and yeast are absolutely not – there is no way of linking yeasts and UTIs with sexual activity. Unfortunately they just happen all by themselves a lot of the time.

Warmest regards,
Aunt Vadge

 

Jessica Lloyd - Naturopathic Practitioner, BHSc(N)

Jessica Lloyd - Naturopathic Practitioner, BHSc(N)

Jessica is a degree-qualified naturopath (BHSc) specialising in vulvovaginal health and disease, based in Melbourne, Australia.

Jessica is the owner and lead naturopath of My Vagina, and is a member of the:

  • International Society for the Study of Vulvovaginal Disease (ISSVD)
  • International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health (ISSWSH)
  • National Vulvodynia Association (NVA) Australia
  • New Zealand Vulvovaginal Society (ANZVS)
  • Australian Traditional Medicine Society (ATMS)
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