Aunt Vadge: sex slip has made me bleed – a lot

An abstract artwork with a teacup spilling tea onto a table, with a pair of scissors, to show bleeding after a sex mishap.

Hello Aunt Vadge,

I’m a 22 year old woman and when me and my partner were getting involved, his part slipped and hit my clit causing a tear. It did hurt for a bit and bled a lot but I started to use a antibiotic cream for a few days.

It doesn’t hurt anymore and hardly bleeds, but I still have a tear.

Will it heal on its own or do I need to see a doctor? Again it’s on my clit at the top (not near hood) but a bit above it.

Age 22
Texas, USA


Oh dear, Ash, that sounds like a not-so-fun adventure you had there! Accidents happen, and let’s be real, the bedroom can sometimes be more like a sports arena, right?

Firstly, good on you for taking quick action with the antibiotic cream; that was a smart move to fend off any nasty infections. Now, even though it’s stopped hurting and the bleeding has tapered off, you’re still left with a bit of a battle wound.

Here’s the lowdown: most minor tears and cuts down there do tend to heal on their own, thanks to the superpowers of our body’s healing processes. The area around your clit is no exception, and it’s packed with blood vessels that can help it repair relatively quickly.

However, since the tear is near such a sensitive and delicate area, it’s super important to keep it clean and avoid any action that could irritate it while it’s doing its healing thing.

But, and it’s a big but – if the tear isn’t closing up, or if it’s showing any sign of infection like redness, swelling, funky smells, or if it starts hurting again, it’s definitely time to call in the pros. It’s better to be safe than sorry, especially when it comes to your precious bits.

So here’s what I suggest: If after giving it some time to heal on its own you still see that tear, or if anything seems amiss, make an appointment to see your healthcare provider. They can take a closer look to make sure everything is healing as it should be, and if needed, they can give you the best advice or treatment.

Remember, your comfort and health are the number one priority. Take good care of yourself, and listen to your body. If you feel like something’s not right, trust that instinct.

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Take care, heal up, and next time, maybe try a different game plan for your bedroom sports to avoid another unexpected slam dunk! Be careful out there!

Much love,
Aunt Vadge 💕