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Hi Aunt Vadge,
My boyfriend was fingering me and I was super wet. Suddenly he stopped and said “there’s a lot of blood” – his fingers were covered from tip to hand. The weirdest part is I had zero pain, and he’s gone harder and deeper before with nothing like this.
I had my period about a week and a half ago, so I don’t think it’s that, and it feels like more than spotting. Any thoughts?
Best,
Bloodied
Age 21, United States
Dear Bloodied,
A surprising amount of blood from fingering, with no pain at all, usually has a simple, non-scary explanation: the inside of the vagina has very few nerve endings, so a nick from a fingernail, or a finger bumping the cervix when he went deeper, can bleed quite a bit without you feeling a thing – and because you were very aroused, your tissue was engorged with blood, which both cushions any pain and means a small cut bleeds more freely.
The cervix in particular is delicate and full of blood vessels (especially with cervical ectropion, a common, harmless thing where soft cells sit on its surface), so a bump up there can produce more blood than you’d expect. Where you are in your cycle plays in too: ovulation can come with a little spotting.
So a one-off like this, with no pain and you feeling otherwise fine, is most likely a deep graze or a bumped cervix and nothing to panic about – it should settle on its own, so rest from sex for a few days and let it.
The reasons to get it checked are if it keeps happening every time, if you get bleeding after sex repeatedly, if it’s heavy or won’t stop, or if any pain develops – in which case a doctor can take a quick look at your cervix and rule out ectropion or anything that needs attention.
But for a single, painless, one-off, the odds are firmly on a minor internal graze.
Best,
Aunt Vadge
This is general information, not a substitute for personalised medical advice.
