Having sex with a tampon in, and tricks for sneakily taking it out

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Having sex with a tampon in isn’t dangerous, but it does have a few caveats – a lack of cervical pleasure, and of course the tampon ends up stuck at the top of your vagina, impossible to get out.

Read our article on how to get a lost tampon out. 

Usually tampon sex happens when you start getting hot and heavy, and you don’t want to get up and take it out before getting it on. So, you just do it with the tampon in.

The impact of tampon sex

The tampon, forced by the penis (or toy or whatever), gets pushed right to the end of the vaginal cavity, sitting right up next to the cervix. The string also disappears with it, making it a problem to get out.

Tips for tampon sex (if you must)

  • Tampon sex can be just as satisfying as sex without a tampon, but you might find a lack of cervical stimulation means you can’t orgasm (but you can still stimulate the clitoris to orgasm if you are able)
  • It can cause sloppy blood to come out if it takes longer than, say, five minutes, as the tampon gets dislodged and squished, so, don’t have a big session. This will depend entirely on your flow at the time.
  • Period sex can be painful if you feel like your cervix and uterus are tender – your period causes your uterus to become a bit inflamed and tender anyway, so just be gentle. Jamming a tampon against your cervix could cause you some pain.
  • You are unlikely to cause yourself damage so long as the tampon is soft and mostly full of blood.
  • Avoid tampon sex with a freshly-inserted or firm tampon, as it can get a bit jabby and may cause bruising or other damage until it becomes wet like your vagina.

Sneaking a tampon out while you are making out

This is tricky and awkward. Obviously the easiest way to get a tampon out is to go to the bathroom and pull it out, and get rid of it that way, but this isn’t always possible. If you want to try to sneak a tampon out mid-make out, you are really going to have to plan it well.

  1. You will need to have a hand free to reach down and pull it out.
  2. You will need to be wearing very little, so if you can, get down to your underwear. If they are your favourites, watch out because they will probably get blood on them.
  3. Occupy your lover’s head so he or she can’t see what you are doing, and doesn’t know that something is happening. Kissing is good for this, as they probably have their eyes closed. You don’t want to get caught.
  4. Your body is going to go awkward and they’ll be able to feel it, so wriggle a bit and moan. Or something.
  5. Your position can be one of several, but one of the best is you straddling them, leaning forward to kiss them, then reach behind and pull the string out. It’s not easy – seriously – but if you were desperate, this is how you do it.
  6. Hold the tampon in your closed fist, and then drop it under the bed or somewhere where they are not going to see it. When you are finished, quickly scoop it up and bin or flush it.

Jessica Lloyd - Vulvovaginal Specialist Naturopathic Practitioner, BHSc(N)

Jessica is a degree-qualified naturopath (BHSc) specialising in vulvovaginal health and disease, based in Melbourne, Australia.

Jessica is the owner and lead naturopath of My Vagina, and is a member of the:

  • International Society for the Study of Vulvovaginal Disease (ISSVD)
  • International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health (ISSWSH)
  • National Vulvodynia Association (NVA) Australia
  • New Zealand Vulvovaginal Society (ANZVS)
  • Australian Traditional Medicine Society (ATMS)