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Having sex with a tampon in isn’t dangerous, but it does have a few caveats – a lack of cervical pleasure, and of course, the tampon ends up stuck at the top of your vagina, difficult to extract.
Here’s our guide on how to get a lost tampon out. You’ll need this later.
A typical situation where a tampon is ignored is when you’re in the moment, and you don’t want to get up and take it out before having sex. So, you just do it with the tampon in. Or, perhaps you forgot it was in there.
Either way, you will need to fish the tampon out at some stage, and the sooner the better.
The impact of sex with a tampon in your vagina
The penis pushes the tampon right to the end of the vaginal canal, so it is sitting right up next to the cervix – usually sideways, wedged. The string also disappears with it, making it a problem to get out.
You won’t hurt yourself or your partner if you have penetrative sex when a tampon is still in the vagina. The main issues are, first, enjoyment of sex can be impaired (but not always), and second, getting the tampon out can be a challenge.
The best course of action is to remove the tampon before sex. The best way to do this is to pop to the bathroom and maintain your dignity, but sometimes you’re pretending you don’t have your period and will just keep going.
Tips for sex with a tampon in
- Sex with a tampon in can be just as satisfying as sex without a tampon, but there won’t be any direct cervical stimulation, which can impact enjoyment for some.
- If you have heavy menstrual flow, you could start to leak if the sex isn’t quick. The tampon will become dislodged and squashed, preventing it from doing its job as an absorbent plug.
- Period sex can be painful if your cervix and uterus are already tender and the tampon is hard – your period causes your uterus to become a bit inflamed and tender anyway, so just be gentle. If the tampon is soft and full, this is less likely to be a problem.
Taking a tampon out discreetly
Taking a tampon out of your vagina mid-make-out is tricky and awkward, but not impossible. Here are some tips.
- You will need to have a hand free to reach down and pull it out.
- You will need to be wearing very little; underwear or less is ideal.
- Occupy your lover’s head so they can’t see what you are doing, and don’t know that something is happening. Kissing is good for this, as they probably have their eyes closed.
- Your body is going to go awkward and they’ll be able to feel it, so wriggle a bit and moan. Or something.
- Your position can be one of several, but one of the best is you straddling them, leaning forward to kiss them, then reach behind and pull the string out. It’s not easy – seriously – but if you were desperate, this is how you do it.
- Hold the tampon in your closed fist, and then drop it under the bed or somewhere where they are not going to see it. When you are finished, quickly scoop it up and bin or flush it.
