Girls masturbate by using their fingers or an object to stimulate their clitoris, vulva and/or vagina, for sole purpose of sexual pleasure. Girls masturbate for the same reasons that boys masturbate – to feel good, and get off (come, orgasm).

The clitoris and masturbation

The clitoris is actually really big and has legs that wrap around the vaginal canal and go down into the body. This means the infamous and unfindable ‘g-spot’ is actually just access to part of the clitoris via the vaginal canal.

When a girl masturbates, she may stimulate any area that feels good to her. Mainly this will mean the clitoral glans, which is the little button that sticks out the front of her vagina that we all think of as the clitoris.

She may rub her clitoris around in circles, or rub around the sides of her clitoris, or rub the whole vulva (labia, clitoris). She may rub hard or soft, with saliva or some kind of lubrication, likely using a combination of strokes.

As she approaches orgasm, she will probably rub harder and faster, as the clitoral tissue swells and plumps, much like an erection, until orgasm.

Stimulating inside the vagina during masturbation

A girl may also penetrate herself with her fingers or an object like a dildo, though anything will do really as long as it does the job. This is where a carrot or cucumber can come in handy – the object, a size of her choice, will stimulate the parts of the vaginal canal that get to her deeper clitoral structures. Not everyone likes penetration, and a lot of women can stimulate just their clitoris and have very satisfying orgasms.

Dildos and vibrators and pillows and other stuff to masturbate with

Girls are much more likely to use dildos and vibrators than guys because of the deep clitoral structures. This means dildos shaped like penises (which tend to be the most useful shape for the best stimulation – thanks evolution!) are common.

But, penis-shaped objects are not the only kind girls like. Penises aren’t the only shapes that satisfy girls, and there are many small and large devices, battery powered and not, that get girls off.

Some girls rub themselves on pillows or cushions or other soft, shimmery or slippery fabrics.

Each girl is different in how she masturbates and there are no right or wrong ways. Just good ways.

Orgasms via masturbation

Once she has orgasmed, she will probably feel satisfied, and the masturbating event is over, but many women can have more than one orgasm. Sometimes girls masturbate but don’t orgasm – it’s just fun and feels nice. There are no rules about orgasms or masturbating.

Skene's Gland Diagram

How often do girls masturbate?

How long is a piece of string? Some girls do it every day and some never do it, but most are in between. It’s more normal for women to masturbate than not to masturbate, even if they don’t admit it.

Many women report masturbating about once a week, but that is completely variable. There are no rules – everyone should masturbate exactly as often as they like.

What age do girls start masturbating?

Some girls start really early, when they are kids, and some don’t start until later in life when the urge strikes. When a girl or woman starts masturbating will depend on many factors, including A) how often and strong the urge to do so strikes B) the thought to do so (typically from hearing about it from other people), and C) being physically able to masturbate.

Girls don’t have the luxury that boys do, with an outer appendage, so learning about the inside of her vagina and what the folds hold can take some time.

Frequently asked masturbation questions

  1. No, you cannot get pregnant by masturbating. (Read about when and how you can get pregnant, and when you can’t)
  2. Yes masturbation is safe, and unless you are rough, you won’t hurt yourself.
  3. No, masturbating is not a sin and you will not go to hell – sexual expression is a basic human function, either alone or with a partner. You can guarantee that Jesus was masturbating.
  4. Mutual masturbation means you do it with a friend, which can mean you do them and they do you, or you both do yourselves.
  5. Masturbating doesn’t take your virginity (but read this about being a virgin).

What to do if you aren’t sure how to masturbate

Learning how to masturbate takes time and practice. You should try everything! There is no right or wrong, just what feels good today, and what doesn’t. Each time you masturbate you may do it a bit differently, and when you first start out, this is exactly what you should do.

It can really pay to see how other women masturbate as an example, and not a big show-off masturbate like in a porn film, but real masturbating by real women. OMGYes is our favourite new instructional guide on how to masturbate, but if you can’t afford the $50, you’ll need to use the other resources available on how to get yourself off.

OMGYes is useful because real women introduce themselves and explain to you in a non-sexual way exactly what techniques they use to masturbate. We see real vaginas, and then you get to practice with feedback from the virtual reality version of the woman to help you get it right. It’s fun to use and very educational, as opposed to watching someone masturbate, which can be a little confronting and not that educational with all that huffing and puffing and moaning.

Learning how to masturbate is a really personal thing, but it’s worth practising and getting the hang of. It’s not really the type of thing you will talk to your friends about, particularly techniques, so finding help online can be really useful.

Jessica Lloyd - Naturopathic Practitioner, BHSc(N)

Jessica Lloyd - Naturopathic Practitioner, BHSc(N)

Jessica is a degree-qualified naturopath (BHSc) specialising in vulvovaginal health and disease, based in Melbourne, Australia.

Jessica is the owner and lead naturopath of My Vagina, and is a member of the:

  • International Society for the Study of Vulvovaginal Disease (ISSVD)
  • International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health (ISSWSH)
  • National Vulvodynia Association (NVA) Australia
  • New Zealand Vulvovaginal Society (ANZVS)
  • Australian Traditional Medicine Society (ATMS)
Read more about Jessica and My Vagina's origin story.
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