How girls masturbate

Girls masturbate by using their fingers or an object to stimulate their own clitoris and vagina for sexual pleasure and release. It is done for much the same reasons as boys masturbate – to feel good, and get off (come, orgasm).



The clitoris

The clitoris is actually really big and has legs that wrap around the vaginal canal and down into the body. This means the g-spot is actually just access to part of the clitoris via the vaginal canal. When a girl masturbates, she may stimulate any area that feels good to her. Mainly this will mean the clitoral glans, which is the little button that sticks out the front of her vagina.

She may rub her clitoris around in circles, or rub around the sides of her clitoris, or rub the whole vulva (labia, clitoris). She may rub hard or soft, with saliva or some kind of lubrication, but likely she will use a combination of strokes. As she approaches orgasm, she will probably rub harder and faster, as the clitoral tissue swells and plumps, much like an erection, until orgasm.

Inside her vagina

A girl may also penetrate herself with her fingers or an object like a dildo, though anything will do really. This is where a carrot or cucumber can come in handy – the object, a size of her choice, will stimulate the parts of her vaginal canal that get to her deeper clitoral structures. Not everyone likes penetration, and a lot of women can stimulate their clitoris and quickly orgasm.

Skene's Gland DiagramDildos and vibrators and pillows and other stuff

Girls are much more likely to use dildos and vibrators than guys, because of the deep clitoral structures. This means dildos shaped like penises (which tend to be the most useful shape for the best stimulation – thanks evolution!) are common. But, they are not the only kind girls like. Penises aren’t the only shapes that satisfy girls, and there are many small and large devices, battery powered and not, that get girls off.

Some girls rub themselves on pillows or cushions or really anything else, since the clitoris likes to be rubbed.

Each girl is different in how she masturbates and there are no right or wrong ways. Just good ways.


Once she has orgasmed, she will probably feel satisfied, and the masturbating event is over. Sometimes girls masturbate but don’t orgasm – it’s just fun and feels nice. There are no rules about orgasms.

How often do girls masturbate?

How long is a piece of string? Some girls do it every day and some never do it, but most are in between. It’s more normal for women to masturbate than not to masturbate, even if they don’t admit it. Many women report masturbating about once a week, but that is completely variable. There are no rules – everyone should masturbate exactly how often they like.

What age do girls masturbate?

Some start really early, when they are kids, and some don’t start until later in life when the urge strikes. We love masturbating, and think everyone should give it a go as early as they fancy, to find out about their bodies. Girls don’t have the luxury that boys do, with an outer appendage, so learning about the inside of their vagina, and what the folds hold, takes time.

Frequently asked masturbating questions

  1. No, you cannot get pregnant by masturbating. (Read about when and how you can get pregnant, and when you can’t)
  2. Yes masturbating is safe and unless you are rough, you won’t hurt yourself.
  3. No, masturbating is not a sin and you will not go to hell – sexual expression is a basic human function, either alone or with a partner.
  4. Mutual masturbation means you do it with a friend, which can mean you do them and they do you, or you both do yourselves.
  5. Masturbating doesn’t take your virginity (but read this about being a virgin)

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