Aunt Vadge: my period just stopped after two years

Hi Aunt Vadge,

I’m 13, I’ve had my period for two years now and I’ve never had sex before, so why haven’t I gotten it for almost three months now? 

Thanks. 
Period-free Zone

Age: 13
Country: USA

Dear Period-free Zone,

There are lots of reasons for a period to stop that don’t include being pregnant, and you can find lots of information on what these could be in our article about why your period might stop.

You may need to think about what’s been going on for you lately, and especially three months ago. Stress can upset the balance significantly, so if you’ve been having a full-on time, perhaps at home or school, it may be the cause of your period stopping.

Also if you are very thin (or have low body fat) or are exercising a lot, your period can stop.

Read through the big list and eliminate what you can. Make your own list, and do some analysis of what it definitely isn’t (pregnancy, menopause) then cross them off. This will whittle down the possibilities. Then, I suggest you make an appointment with your family doctor and talk it over with them.

It’s likely they may simply try to put you on the pill or something like that, but the pill isn’t the best solution for this. You need to find out why this is happening, and then correct that, not just mask the problem with hormonal contraceptives that you don’t actually need.

What I mean is, don’t let them fob you off. Your periods just stopping after two years of regular periods means something, and you need to find out what, so don’t let the doctor send you home with a prescription unless they fully explain why.

You will find that you probably have other symptoms that will give you a clue as to what’s going on, so if you want to, whittle down the list and then send it back to me and we can talk it over further.

Warmest regards,
Aunt Vadge

Jessica Lloyd - Naturopathic Practitioner, BHSc(N)

Jessica Lloyd - Naturopathic Practitioner, BHSc(N)

Jessica is a degree-qualified naturopath (BHSc) specialising in vulvovaginal health and disease, based in Melbourne, Australia.

Jessica is the owner and lead naturopath of My Vagina, and is a member of the:

  • International Society for the Study of Vulvovaginal Disease (ISSVD)
  • International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health (ISSWSH)
  • National Vulvodynia Association (NVA) Australia
  • New Zealand Vulvovaginal Society (ANZVS)
  • Australian Traditional Medicine Society (ATMS)
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