Aunt Vadge: sex and fingering has made my vagina sting and burn like a UTI

Hi Aunt Vadge, 

I was having sex with my boyfriend, and in the middle, he decides to switch to fingering me and now I think I have a UTI. I was very wet, but it still hurt, and then some of the rest of the sex until we finished hurt/stung a bit.

Now it hurts/stings and I feel like I non-stop gotta pee (like a UTI). I’ve been in situations where fingering hurt before, but not like this, especially after sex and feeling like I gotta pee and it burns. Please help. ASAP.


Age: 20
Country: United States

Dear Burning,

It sounds like your urethra has been inflamed and it’s possible that you have a urinary tract infection. The urethra is easily accessible from inside the vagina, and it doesn’t actually take much to irritate it.

Follow the instructions on our UTI page, following the advice for clearing up a UTI at home. A good place to start is with reflexology – it’s free and if done correctly, can resolve your UTI symptoms in half an hour to an hour.

Your body and UTI will heal up, there is no doubt, but clearing up your uncomfortable UTI symptoms is important. Make sure you don’t have any lingering sensations after treatment, because that could mean you have not solved the problem entirely. Don’t stop until your urethra and vagina all feeling completely normal again. If you can’t get rid of it, then try some of the other suggestions on the UTI page. If nothing is helping, or it’s not helping enough, see your doctor. They’ll have some other suggestions for you.

Next time, you need to stop if sex or fingering stings – it means you are damaging yourself and you’ll suffer later! UTIs and fingering damage are very, very uncomfortable, so use this as a good lesson.

Write anytime.

Warmest regards,
Aunt Vadge