Aunt Vadge: I was fingered now my period is late – am I pregnant?

Dear Aunt Vadge,

My boyfriend fingered me three weeks ago. After the day he fingered me, I bled but not that much. The bleeding lasted for, I think, 3-5 days. I was supposed to have menstruation last week, but it was delayed.

Until now, I don’t have my period yet and it is already 10 days delayed.

Could it be possible that I’m pregnant? What am I gonna do?


Age: 17
Country: USA

Dear Nervous,

You are not pregnant! It’s impossible to get pregnant from fingering, unless you were ovulating and your boyfriend had live sperm on his fingers. Learn about when you can and can’t get pregnant.

Also, was that your period? Three to five days of bleeding sounds like a period!

Sometimes periods are a bit slower to arrive you want them to be, so just wait and see – I’m sure you’ll get your period soon.

You should learn how to tell when you ovulate, so you can keep track of when you can get pregnant and when you can’t. This is your best tool in protecting yourself from an unwanted pregnancy, because you’ll know when to keep a penis – or cummy fingers – away from your vagina without a condom.

If your period still doesn’t come, you could take a pregnancy test just to put your mind at ease, but then you need to start looking into why your periods are irregular or have stopped. If your period comes, there is no need to worry.

Warmest regards,
Aunt Vadge


Jessica Lloyd - Naturopathic Practitioner, BHSc(N)

Jessica Lloyd - Naturopathic Practitioner, BHSc(N)

Jessica is a degree-qualified naturopath (BHSc) specialising in vulvovaginal health and disease, based in Melbourne, Australia.

Jessica is the owner and lead naturopath of My Vagina, and is a member of the:

  • International Society for the Study of Vulvovaginal Disease (ISSVD)
  • International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health (ISSWSH)
  • National Vulvodynia Association (NVA) Australia
  • New Zealand Vulvovaginal Society (ANZVS)
  • Australian Traditional Medicine Society (ATMS)
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