Hi Aunt Vadge,
My boyfriend and I recently had sex, and on my tracker app it said it was my ovulation day. We used a condom and he pulled out before finishing. I have anxiety and highly worry about things like this easily, although this isn’t the first time we’ve had sex.
I’m worried in case anything went wrong and I’m pregnant, even though I don’t think the condom ripped. Do you think I’m safe?
If the condom didn’t break, then you are safe! Condoms are excellent forms of birth control, so as long as you use the condoms properly (putting it on properly and using lube) then you can rest assured that you are not pregnant.
Learning to trust birth control is a process, so learn everything you can about condoms (look up videos about how to put them on properly, read about how to properly use a condom, for example making sure it is the right size for your boyfriend’s penis, and making sure you always use lube to avoid tears).
Condoms are the best way to avoid pregnancy, and you are going great! Tracking your cycle is a great way to learn too, so you are doing all the right things. Learning about sex takes a long time, but knowing when you are fertile, and how to protect yourself is key. Just keep that penis away from your vagina without a condom on when you are in the fertile window (not just when you are ovulating but the days around it – sperm can survive for days!) and you’ll be just fine.
If you use condoms religiously, and don’t let a penis near your vagina without one, you can always rest assured that you will not be pregnant.