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Hi there Aunt Vadge,
On the 4th of May my boyfriend and I did naked grinding. There was no penetration and he didn’t ejaculate near me, but there was some precum on the tip of his penis, and I’m not sure if it touched my vagina or not (he didn’t enter, but I’m not sure if anything could get inside still).
I got my period at the right time and took a pregnancy test 17 days later that was negative. I’m still freaked out and just need reassurance that I’m being irrational. I’ve had my period at the right time both months since, and I’m also on the pill.
Sincerely,
Grinder
Age 20, South Africa
Hi there Grinder,
You’re being completely rational to want reassurance – and it’s easy to give, because everything here points firmly to not pregnant. Naked grinding with no penetration, no ejaculation near you, and only a possible trace of precum that may or may not have touched the outside, is extremely low risk to begin with.
On top of that you’ve got three separate confirmations: you’re on the pill, your period came on time, and a test 17 days later was negative (more than late enough to be accurate) – and your period has come on time both months since.
Any one of those would be reassuring; together they close the case.
So this is your body and your tests both telling you the same true thing: you’re fine.
The thing that’ll stop the spiral happening again is understanding how pregnancy actually works – it needs live sperm getting inside the vagina around ovulation, which simply didn’t happen here – so that, plus a period tracker so you can see your own fertile window, will let you relax in the moment next time rather than for weeks afterwards.
You did nothing wrong, and there’s nothing to worry about.
Sincerely,
Aunt Vadge
This is general information, not a substitute for personalised medical advice.
