Aunt Vadge: post-fingering burning, and could I be pregnant?
Hi Aunt Vadge,
So my boyfriend and I have been dating for 11 months, and we finally decided to try something. He was fingering me, and it felt good at the time, but now it burns and hurts. It was also my very first time, so maybe I wasn’t used to it.
Also, he had precum on his shorts and I was grabbing his penis but nothing was on it. He seemed to grab his dick and put it down because he had a large boner.
After he was eating me out and was fingering me at the same time. Is there any way I could get pregnant?
I know we didn’t have actual sex, but I just need to stop worrying. It happened today.
Yours,
Worried
Age: 16
Country: United States
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Hey Worried,
Our gentlemen friends may not be very good at touching vaginas with their fingers when they first start out. They have absolutely no idea what is supposed to be happening or what it feels like for you and tend to be a bit rough.
We can end up with soreness, even though it feels good at the time.
You will start to learn what certain things cause you soreness afterwards and learn how and when fingering can be done without pain. Learn how your vulva and vagina change when they are turned on.
When you are really horny, it fills up with blood, which acts like a cushion, and afterwards, you won’t have soreness. If you weren’t fully turned on, the vulva is actually quite delicate and can be damaged more easily, even if it feels good.
Then there are fingernails and poking in the wrong direction to contend with.
Both of you should read Fingering Basics, together, so that you are both on the same page as to what should be happening during fingering.
As for whether you are pregnant or not, it really doesn’t sound like it’s possible, so just put it out of your head. It might be a good time to start thinking about learning how to use condoms together, however, and learning about when you can and can’t get pregnant.
It sounds like you two will have so much fun together! It’s awesome. Have the BEST time, and write to me anytime with any questions, big or small.
Warmest regards,
Aunt Vadge
