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Hi Aunt Vadge,
My boyfriend and I have been dating 11 months and finally tried something. He was fingering me – it felt good at the time, but now it burns and hurts. It was my first time, so maybe I wasn’t used to it.
Also, he had precum on his shorts and I was holding his penis but nothing was on it. After that he was going down on me and fingering me at the same time. Is there any way I could get pregnant? I know we didn’t have actual sex, I just need to stop worrying.
It happened today.
Yours,
Worried
United States
Hey Worried,
Two separate worries, and you can put both down. The burning first: when you’re new to it, fingers can be a bit rough and the tissue isn’t used to being touched, so even though it felt good at the time, you can end up sore and burny afterwards – that’s friction, not damage.
Plenty of lube, lots of unhurried arousal first, short smooth nails and a gentle pace fix it, and the soreness settles in a day or two, so rest it till then.
On pregnancy: there’s essentially no risk from what you’ve described. Fingering and oral don’t cause pregnancy, and precum sitting on his shorts, or you touching his penis with nothing on your hand, doesn’t put live sperm inside your vagina – which is what pregnancy actually requires.
Sperm doesn’t survive on fabric or skin in open air for long, and none of this was anywhere near a ‘direct deposit’. So you can relax completely. If it would settle your mind for good, learning how you do and don’t get pregnant and tracking your cycle means you’ll never have to spiral after closeness like this again.
You’re absolutely fine.
Warmest regards,
Aunt Vadge
This is general information, not a substitute for personalised medical advice.
