Aunt Vadge: bleeding after fingering, but why this time?

Hello Aunt Vadge,

So I’m 17 and my boyfriend has fingered me multiple times now and it’s was fine. But recently the last two times were very different. The second-to-last time he was very aggressive and it was uncomfortable, and he scratched me, and I started to bleed and it was very uncomfortable. But the last time he did it, it wasn’t painful at all and I was very aroused, however I still bled this time. I’m not to sure what to exactly think but I’m just very confused as to why I bled this time, because of how comfortable I was with it. 

Help!
M

Dear M,

Your email address bounced, so here is your answer with more questions! Please write back to auntvadge@allthingsvagina.com if you get this.

  1. How long between the last aggressive fingering and this latest fingering was it and when is your period due?
  2. Did your boyfriend do anything differently this time? (like go deeper, have long fingernails?)
  3. Have you identified where exactly the bleeding is coming from?
  4. How much blood is there?
  5. Can you feel pain?

The vaginal canal actually has remarkably few nerve endings in it compared to many other parts of our bodies, because it’s the bit the baby has to get squeezed out of, thus must be stretchy and not very painful. The bits at either end are more sensitive by a lot. This is why we can get damaged on the inside and not really feel it as much unless we touch it.

Looking forward to hearing back.

Warmest regards,
Aunt Vadge