Aunt Vadge: Vaginal cuts and tears. Bleeding after fingering, why?

Hello Aunt Vadge,

So I’m 17 and my boyfriend has fingered me multiple times now and it’s was fine. But recently the last two times were very different.

The second-to-last time he was very aggressive and it was uncomfortable, and he scratched me, and I started to bleed and it was very uncomfortable.

But the last time he did it, it wasn’t painful at all and I was very aroused, however I still bled this time.

I’m not to sure what to exactly think but I’m just very confused as to why I bled this time, because of how comfortable I was with it.

Help!
M
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Hello M,

I understand that this must be quite perplexing and a bit worrisome for you. Bleeding after being fingered can occur for a few reasons, and it’s important we consider all possibilities to get a clearer picture.

Firstly, the aggressive episode you described could have caused some small tears or abrasions inside your vagi na, especially if you mention that your boyfriend scratched you. Even if the more recent experience was gentle and comfortable, there might still be some healing vaginal tissue from the previous encounter that bled when touched or stretched.

It’s also possible that you had some mild irritation or inflammation within your vagina which may not have necessarily been painful, vaginal anatomy varies in nerve supply, but still delicate enough to bleed when stimulated. Minor vaginal bleeding can sometimes be due to hormonal fluctuations; however, this is less likely in your case, given the circumstances you described.

Another factor to consider is whether you were close to your menstrual period, as some people experience spotting or light bleeding when they’re sexually aroused close to the time their period is due.

In any case, it’s important to make sure that any sexual activity you engage in is comfortable and safe. Here are a few steps you might like to consider:

Take a short break from any penetrative activity to allow your body to fully heal if there’s been any minor injury.
Ensure that your boyfriend’s hands are clean and his nails are trimmed before any sexual activity. This can help prevent scratches and reduce the risk of infection.
Use a water-based lubricant to reduce friction and make the experience more comfortable.
If the bleeding persists or if you experience any discomfort, pain, or unusual discharge, it would be wise to seek the advice of a healthcare professional, such as your GP or gynaecologist, to rule out other causes.

If you’re ever in doubt or just feel like something isn’t quite right, trusting your instincts and getting a medical check-up is always the smart move. Your health and comfort should always come first!

Take care, and remember, your wellbeing is paramount in any situation.

Best regards,
Aunt Vadge