Aunt Vadge: fingering cut is healed, but when can I have sex again?

Hi Aunty Vadge, 

My boyfriend was fingering me and pulled his finger out too quickly, and cut me in my vaginal area near the minora labia. After some research, the pain was excruciating I went straight to the accident department that night and they advised me that I should be fine. I had cleaned the affected area and then made an appointment with the doctors the next day, they provided me with a barrier cream and some antibiotics.

It is a small cut. I constantly clean the area and apply the cream, wear cotton underwear, and at night where nothing to make sure air gets to it. I had it checked after I finished the course of antibiotics and the nurse advised me that it’s fine and that it has healed beautiful and all is well.

I am now on day 13 and it feels loads better. There is still some slight swelling, but not too much. 

Can you advise me when I am ready to have sex again? And is it true it can take months for it to heal properly? As the tip of where the cut is red. 

Thanks
Cut

Hi there Cut,

Essentially you can have sex again as soon as the cut seems to be healed and you can’t feel any more pain or sensitivity. Your cut will take as much time to heal (or less) than a normal cut on your skin, so if you know how bad the cut was, then you will know how long a similar cut on your arm or leg would take, and it will be the same. Skin heals quite fast unless you have a health reason that impedes this.

The redness could be because scar tissue is usually pretty pink at first, but it will fade over time. Read our article on healing vaginal and vulvar cuts and tears if you get stuck.

Write back anytime and let us know how you go!

Warmest regards,
Aunt Vadge