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Aunt Vadge: is my wife cheating on me?
Worried a labial tear means cheating? It isn't - small labial splits have many everyday, non-sexual causes. The clinical facts, and a kinder way forward.
Aunt Vadge: sex slip has made me bleed – a lot
A clitoral tear from sex that bled a lot? It almost always heals on its own - the clitoris is very vascular. How to help it heal, and how to prevent a repeat.
Aunt Vadge: recurrent tears beneath clitoris
Keep getting tiny tears just below your clitoris? If you've been checking and stretching the delicate skin, that's likely the cause. The fix, and the anatomy.
Aunt Vadge: paper cuts around clitoris
Tiny paper-cut tears near your clitoris? Lingering yeast in the labial folds softens the delicate skin so it splits. Clear the yeast first - and the herpes check.
Aunt Vadge: I’ve got painful slits in all the cracks
Recurrent painful splits on your vulva but herpes tests are negative? The timing - after your period and after sex - points to recurrent yeast and friction.
Aunt Vadge: can a doctor see scars in my vagina?
Can a doctor see, date or 'read the cause' of an old vaginal tear? Usually not - the tissue heals without a trace, and it can't reveal your history. The facts.
Aunt Vadge: sore clitoris after fingering, but four days later it’s not better
A sore 'tear' near your clitoris still hurting after six days? It may not be a tear - a trapped pubic hair under the hood is a sneaky cause. And no, your period can't infect it.
Aunt Vadge: do I have herpes even though the test was negative?
Recurrent posterior fourchette tear but two negative herpes swabs? It's not herpes. The real drivers are yeast, dry friction (use the lube!), and a possible skin condition.
Aunt Vadge: small dot on posterior fourchette that won’t go away
A single sore spot on the fourchette since menopause that won't heal? Likely fragile low-oestrogen skin - and a local E3 cream isn't the HRT you're avoiding. Plus, get it examined.
Aunt Vadge: paper cuts around my vaginal entrance
Paper-cut cracks at your vaginal entrance during sex but negative STI tests? It's not herpes - it's yeast weakening the skin plus dry friction. The two-pronged fix.
Aunt Vadge: cuts around clitoral hood – is it herpes?
Recurring paper-cut splits by your clitoris - is it herpes? Probably not; herpes is painful sores, not thin cuts. The likely causes are friction, yeast, or a skin condition.
Aunt Vadge: I have a cut in my vagina that won’t heal after vaginal delivery
A birth tear that never healed? Often it's breastfeeding-related low oestrogen slowing it, granulation tissue, or a repair that didn't hold - all fixable. What to ask for.
Aunt Vadge: I just got married, had sex 5 times in 24 hours, now I have a blister – why?
A newly-married couple has been at it for days, but now she has a blister and scrapes. What should she do?
Aunt Vadge: I have a sex tear that doesn’t bleed but won’t heal
A deep tear from rough sex hasn't gone away, but doesn't bleed. She's wondering if it's there for good. What should she do?
Aunt Vadge: fissuring that just won’t go away
She has a tear with scarring at the very bottom of her vaginal entrance (just inside) that splits every time she has sex. Is she doing something wrong?
Essential oil suppository recipe for soothing vaginal tears
Some ideas on how to make a soothing, healing essential oil suppository for inner vaginal cuts and tears. Help your vagina to heal.
Aunt Vadge: long cuts or lines in vaginal creases – is it an STD or yeast infection?
She has long thin cuts between her labia and isn't sure if it's a yeast infection or an STD. How would she ever be able to tell?
Perineal tears
Perineal tearing is usually from childbirth, where the impact of the baby coming out of the birth canal tears the posterior fourchette and perineum. These types of tears are on the rise, but it's unclear why.
How to treat vaginal tears caused by sex
Treating vulvar and vaginal tears caused by sex, fingering, masturbating or misadventure is usually pretty easy, but you need to know what you're dealing with before you try to treat it.
Aunt Vadge: sex hurts every single time and now it just hurts all the time
Every time her and her boyfriend have sex, she's pretended it didn't hurt, and now she has just pain all the time.