Hi Aunt Vadge,
I just got married this past weekend. Me and my husband have been together for over a year, but we had sex for the first time five times during the first 24 hours.
We then traveled for a little over a day, and when we arrived at our resort, we had sex again, and it burned and stung very badly when he was going in.
I thought it was normal ‘just starting to have sex’ things. So we tried a few more times the day after, but it just seemed to hurt more. We then looked and found a single blister, cream-filled, on the entrance of one side, and a scrape-looking thing on the other.
Could it be that I had cuts and when I went into the pool they got infected?
It is certainly ‘just starting to have sex’ things, but what that means is you way overdid it! You cannot have sex five times in one day, when you have never had sex before and have no idea what you’re doing (or when to stop), and expect to come through unscathed.
You and your husband need to slow down on the sex!
Signs of infection include pus, and heat – if the blister is hot, it could be infected, but this is easily solved. Wipe the area carefully (not inside your vagina, just on the blister) with Betadine (which is povidone-iodine, a safe antiseptic for your vulva area) to sanitise it. It’s brown and can stain your skin for a bit, so just be careful where you put it if you are going to be in a bathing suit!
Then get a sanitised pin or needle and pick away a tiny bit of the edge of the blister to allow the fluid to drain out of the blister.
Then, with all the pus removed, wipe over it again with Betadine, trying to get as many surfaces as you can. You can use a cotton bud to get into the inside of the blister if you can. You want it empty and clean.
Stay out of the pool until it feels a bit better. It should heal up pretty quickly, but you need to make sure you keep it clean and dry, so the skin can be stitched back together by your body. You could also just leave it be and see what happened, but whatever you do, stop trying to have sex.
What I suggest you do is leave your vagina completely alone. It can be tempting to try to have sex all the time now that you can, but there is nobody on earth that can have sex five times in one day and it not leave a mark.
Sex can be kinda brutal on your body, especially learner driver sex, because we’re not really designed to be at it all day long. Long luxurious sex sessions do usually end up with some swelling and little wounds on your vagina, so that’s pretty normal, but it does hurt and you do need to take a proper break to heal – and learn what you can’t get away with during sex.
Just give your vagina a few days to heal up, and then you can try again, but make sure to use lots of lube and if your body needs a break, you just have to do as you’re told. Pain, bleeding and rawness is not going to feel good anyway, so you’ll know when you are ready to have sex again, because it won’t hurt.
Welcome to sex! It’s fun, but you have a few things to learn before you can get to the other side of a 24-hour sex bender unscathed.
You guys can use the time you would be having sex to go through some sex guides to help avoid damage in future:
- Look at the Vag Basics diagrams so you know what your anatomy looks like (and how big your clitoris really is!)
- Learn about the female sexual response – this matters because you need to learn what the physical signs of being turned on look like, and avoid any penetration before you are ready
- Sex 101
- Teach him how to go down on you like a champ – Oral Sex
- Teach him what to do with his fingers – Fingering Basics