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To whom it may concern,
My daughter is starting to grow pubic hair and she hates it. A couple of days ago she was found using a razor blade to remove it. I’ve decided to get a professional to do the hair removal, because I’m scared she’ll accidentally cut sensitive areas.
I’ve told her it’s normal for girls to get hair down there, but she insists it goes. As a father, did I make the right call?
Sincerely,
Dad
Dear Dad,
What a thoughtful dad you are – and yes, your instinct was a good one. A loose razor blade on that delicate skin really is a cut-and-infection risk for someone just starting out, so steering her away from that was sensible, not over-protective.
Then there’s a balancing act, because two valid things are going on at once: her feelings are real (lots of young people feel self-conscious about new pubic hair), and so is your wish to keep her safe – and happily you don’t have to choose between them.
The reassurance to pass on first is that pubic hair is completely normal and actually does a job, cushioning and protecting the delicate skin; there’s no hygiene reason to remove it, so the kindest opening line is that she absolutely doesn’t have to.
Taking the pressure off may be all it needs, since it’s probably just new and strange to her right now.
If she still wants to tidy it, the aim is to make whatever she chooses safe rather than to take the decision away (which usually just sends it underground – hence the secret razor). Trimming with round-tipped scissors is the lowest-risk option by far and often all someone actually wants.
Shaving just the bikini line – not the delicate area itself – with a proper fresh razor and shaving gel rather than a bare blade is the next step, and if she’s keen to shave, that’s where a parent teaching the basics really helps.
The professional route you’ve chosen is a perfectly safe call too, since it removes the blade risk entirely – just keep it to the bikini line, as there’s no need to go further on a young body.
Whichever she picks, a few things to share: a sharp clean razor, shave with the grain, never dry, and a fragrance-free moisturiser afterwards to avoid ingrown hairs and razor burn. You haven’t made a wrong decision – you’ve made a caring one, and keeping her safe while respecting that it’s her body is exactly the line to walk.
You’re doing a lovely job.
Warmest regards,
Aunt Vadge
This is general information, not a substitute for personalised medical advice.
