To whom it may concern,
My daughter aged 11 is starting to grow pubic hair and she hates it. A couple days ago my sister found her using a razor blade to get rid of the hair.
I have decided to get a professional to do the hair removal because I fear she might accidentally cut sensitive areas of her vagina.
I have told my daughter that it is normal that girls get hair down there, but she insists that the hair goes.
So I am asking as a father, did I make the right decision?
I remember when I started growing pubic hair, the first thing I did was shave it all off, as often as I could, in private with my father’s razor.
I’m from a family of four girls, so my father would constantly be bellowing “who’s been using my razor!” All of our pubes and armpit hair stuck in it…
He was not a fan, but his razor was so much nicer to use than the crappy one-blade disposables we bought in bulk because they were cheap and we had so much hair to remove.
Nobody stopped me, and I definitely cut myself a bunch (and annoyingly still do!), but that was part of my learning how to shave.
Just how boys learn to shave and cut themselves a lot so do girls. You don’t need to worry about her. She’ll figure it out. She can’t do too much damage to her vulva or vagina, and she’ll soon learn what works and what doesn’t. She can’t cut it off or anything.
My advice would be to just let her at it. Buy her good quality razors, provide her with shaving cream or gel, and teach her how to shave. It might be awkward, but you, as a man, have experience in this arena, and can actually provide some sage wisdom. It might be one of the only things you can help her with in her whole life – relish it!
It’s her body, and she can do what she wishes with it. Your best move is to help her to do things like shaving safely, not to take it out of her control.
Your daughter will change her styles a thousand times – piercing body parts, tattoos, dying her hair, shaving different parts of her body, wearing different kinds of clothes. All are part of her figuring out what she likes and what she doesn’t like.
It’s wonderful. You’re doing great, and you have not made a wrong or right decision. You’ve just made a call in caring for your daughter, and that’s lovely. Your daughter’s body is now, however, out of your control, so teaching her safe ways to go about the various things she will encounter – drugs, lovers, jobs, shaving – is now part of the job description.