Aunt Vadge: can fingering bring on a double period?

Hi Aunt Vadge, 

I have been currently seeing a guy and five days ago, he fingered me, and it was okay after that, but two days later I got my period and got cramps. It’s been bleeding since then. I should mention I got my period twice this month. The first time, the flow was light but I had severe cramps and pain like I had a cyst in my ovaries. The second time was fewer cramps, but heavy flow. My concern is, did he cause this? Or was it hormones in my system?

Sincerely,
Fingered
Age: 29
Country/Area: Canada

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Dear Fingered,

It is impossible for any sexual activity to impact your periods or hormones, since your vagina and your hormones are two distinct and separate systems. Your menstrual cycle runs independently of whether you are having sex, being fingered, or not being sexual at all. This means that fingering cannot cause you to have two periods, or even one period, though orgasm can help expel blood from the uterus if you were close to your period. Unless you were fingered deeply and it caused some damage, you would not experience cramping from fingering.

Another suggestion for your ‘double period’ is if there was some chance of pregnancy, and you’ve spontaneously miscarried without even knowing about it. It could also be your hormones doing funny things, which they do from time to time. Sometimes we miss periods, get double periods, and have odd bleeding, though this usually occurs when we’re younger and our hormone systems are not quite as consistent.

Bleeding between periods is of more concern, and the only real indicator of an ongoing problem is if your periods continue to behave strangely, are too close together, or are inconsistent. We look for patterns, and usually isolated incidents are put down to a blip that has resolved itself. Mid-cycle bleeding, however, would indicate another problem, for which you would need a professional opinion.

The menstrual cycle tends to be regular and consistent, so if this bleeding is very unusual for you, I would recommend you get a doctor’s appointment and seek a professional view. You will be examined to see if there is anything unusual happening on your cervix, abdomen, and vagina, and your doctor can take a thorough history from you. If you have had ovarian cysts before, and know what it feels like, then maybe it’s time for another check-up.

If your periods are normally very irregular, and you’ve been checked out and there is nothing wrong, it might pay to set up an appointment with a naturopath to start treatment to get you regular again. Surprise periods are not great! Irregular periods also interfere with your fertility, because it means inconsistent or absent ovulation.

Make sure you use a period tracker, and record all dates and symptoms very clearly for your practitioners so they have a good, broad picture of what’s going on.

Write anytime.

Warmest regards,
Aunt Vadge

 

Jessica Lloyd - Naturopathic Practitioner, BHSc(N)

Jessica Lloyd - Naturopathic Practitioner, BHSc(N)

Jessica is a degree-qualified naturopath (BHSc) specialising in vulvovaginal health and disease, based in Melbourne, Australia.

Jessica is the owner and lead naturopath of My Vagina, and is a member of the:

  • International Society for the Study of Vulvovaginal Disease (ISSVD)
  • International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health (ISSWSH)
  • National Vulvodynia Association (NVA) Australia
  • New Zealand Vulvovaginal Society (ANZVS)
  • Australian Traditional Medicine Society (ATMS)
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