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Hello Aunt Vadge,
I have a question! So I started to notice every time me and my boyfriend have sex and he also fingers me really hard and fast (but you know that’s how I like it) and I would go home and pee, but when I look down, I see fleshy bits that have come out of me!
What is this? Is it bad? Should I be worried?
Yours,
Smiles
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Hi there, Smiles,
Thank you for your email. Yes, your dangles do seem to be out of the ordinary! Being fingered hard and fast is not a problem, but being fingered hard and fast and ending up with tentacles may be more so.
You don’t mention if these fleshy protrusions hurt, or bleed, or go back inside later, or what. Can you pull on them? Do they come loose? What colour are they? You also don’t mention what they look like. Could it be your ‘after-sex vagina’?
Vaginas and vulvas have increased blood flow during sex, cushioning the activities so it feels good. If you have had an enthusiastic or long sex session, your vagina can feel a bit lumpy and bumpy for a while until the swelling goes down, hours or even days.
Importantly, how is your boyfriend’s technique? There is no need for damage to be done to your body during sex, as you can always find a way to get off without getting hurt.
Check fingernails, especially. Get your boyfriend to read this guide, and you too, to see if there are any safety tips you’re skipping.
Importantly, a healthcare practitioner should examine you to help you determine what is happening and whether it’s normal or not. We’re all a bit different, so it’s possible this is normal for you, but it’s important to have someone who knows what to look for to examine you.
There may be an anatomical abnormality that is being disrupted that you were previously unaware of, such as a septum or other skin that you were born with inside your vagina that has come ‘loose’, for lack of a better word. Or, it could be completely normal.
Be gentle with your vagina, take some photos of your fleshy protrusions and jot down some notes so you have something to show your physician in case you turn up there and there isn’t anything much to see. Good luck!
Warmest regards,
Aunt Vadge
