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Dear Aunt Vadge,
Last night my boyfriend started to finger me pretty rough, and it felt uncomfortable and not satisfying. Afterwards I noticed I’d bled a little on my underwear, and it felt uncomfortable and a bit painful. I put a finger down there to check and there was a little blood on it, so I ignored it, and in the morning there was still a little blood. (I’m not a virgin.) Is this normal, or was he too rough?
Sincerely, Fingered
Dear Fingered,
This is a very common one, and the short version is: a little blood and soreness after rough fingering is almost always a small friction graze, not something dangerous – but it is a sign that it was too rough or too dry, rather than something to just put up with. When touch is firm and there isn’t enough lubrication, the delicate tissue near the entrance grazes easily, and a graze can ooze a bit of blood for a day or so.
Let it settle: give it a rest from fingering and sex until the soreness has gone, keep it clean and dry, and rinse with plain water if it stings. There’s more in blood after fingering – is it normal?
To stop it happening again, the fix is more arousal before anything goes in, a good lubricant, and a gentler, slower touch – it’s worth telling your boyfriend plainly what feels good and what doesn’t, because a good partner would far rather know than leave you sore. There’s a fuller rundown of why it happens in pain after fingering – is it normal?
When to get it checked
See a doctor if the bleeding is heavy, keeps going beyond a day or two, or comes with worsening pain, swelling or signs of infection. Otherwise a small graze like this settles on its own within a few days.
Warmest regards,
Aunt Vadge
This is general information, not a substitute for personalised medical advice.
