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Dear Aunt Vadge,
My boyfriend fingered me three weeks ago. The day after, I bled a little – it lasted about 3–5 days. I was supposed to get my period last week but it’s delayed, and it’s now 10 days late. Could I be pregnant? What do I do?
Best,
Nervous
USA
Dear Nervous,
You can let the pregnancy worry go – fingering doesn’t get you pregnant. For that, live sperm has to get inside you, and unless your boyfriend had fresh semen on his fingers and you happened to be ovulating, there was nothing there to do it.
What I suspect, though, is that that 3–5 day bleed may well have been your period. Three to five days of bleeding is a textbook period, so if that was it – arriving around the time you were fingered – then you’re not actually 10 days late at all, you’ve just counted from the wrong spot.
The other possibility is a small graze from the fingering, but the length really does sound like a period to me.
If you’re still not sure, it’s been three weeks, so a home test now will be accurate – take one and you can stop wondering. And it’s well worth learning to track your cycle, so next time you’ll know in the moment whether there was ever any risk.
If your periods do turn out to be all over the place, that’s worth looking into (stress is a common reason), but it’s got nothing to do with the fingering.
Warmest regards,
Aunt Vadge
This is general information, not a substitute for personalised medical advice.
