Aunt Vadge: after fingering I need to pee heaps

TL;DR

An 18-year-old’s first experience of being fingered led to unexpected urination issues, raising concerns about Urinary Tract Infections (UTIs) and the importance of pain-free sexual exploration. Aunt Vadge advises on the potential health risks and emphasizes the necessity of enjoyable, consensual sexual activities.

Hi Aunt Vadge, 

I was fingered by my boyfriend around four days ago for the first time, and in the beginning, it was very painful, but after some time, the pain was gone. But, a new problem has arisen.

Everytime it feels like I need to pee, but when I go to the washroom, it doesn’t work. I’m exhausted with this problem, and I even haven’t been able to sleep well during the night.

Help me, please! 

Oh, yes one more thing. When he fingered me, the very next day when my period is off, and yes, there is some itching in the clit. Is everything normal? 

Sincerely,
Unsure
India
Age 18

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Dear Unsure,

It sounds like maybe you have a urinary tract infection (UTI). The main symptom of a UTI is feeling like you need to pee, and then nothing much coming out.

We’ve covered this at our UTI page, but you may need to go and see your doctor to get proper medical treatment. UTIs sometimes get better by themselves, but often they don’t, and they are very, very uncomfortable.

If the infection gets worse, it can travel to your kidneys and cause damage. Don’t wait to get it treated.

Also, it might pay to read the guide to fingering with your boyfriend. You shouldn’t be fingered if it hurts. It’s supposed to be fun and feel good!

It’s not fun if it hurts, and sexy stuff is supposed to be fun! Never let anyone touch you in a way that causes you pain – it’s not how the vagina works, and it will cause you other problems.

Warmest regards,
Aunt Vadge



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