Aunt Vadge: last week fingering made me wet, but not now – why?

Hi Aunt Vadge,
My vagina is dry even after foreplay. My boyfriend has done everything possible to make my vagina wet, but it just doesn’t happen.

I lost my virginity a month back and fingering used to be lovely a week back. Now it hurts, as my vagina is dry.

What is the reason? I am sexually attracted to my partner and I am turned on during foreplay. What might be the reason why the vagina is dry? 

Yours,
Dry

Age: 22
Country: India

Dear Dry,

It is likely that you are experiencing the changes in your body that come with the change in your cycles – sometimes we are very wet and juicy, other times not as much, and sometimes we are dusty and dry.

It seems like you’ll probably find that in a few weeks when you ovulate again, that you are slick as a baby seal once again.

I suggest you just wait this out, and learn about when you are ovulating and when you are not. Get a period tracker app if you don’t already have one, and read up on figuring out when you are ovulating. When you are ovulating, you will find you are much wetter than other times of your cycle, without really trying. If you’ve just started out, this time of your cycle could be deceptively wet, compared with now.

If you are on hormonal birth control, then you may find your body doesn’t respond quite as it normally would, though everyone’s different here.

Give it a few months, track your cycles, and see what you can find out! If your vagina stays dry, you may need a little extra help, so write back then.

Warmest regards,
Aunt Vadge