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Aunt Vadge: is my wife cheating on me?
Worried a labial tear means cheating? It isn't - small labial splits have many everyday, non-sexual causes. The clinical facts, and a kinder way forward.
Aunt Vadge: did yoga tear my clitoris?
Scared you tore your clitoris exercising? You almost certainly didn't - lingering clitoral pain is more like clitorodynia, and it's treatable. Who can help.
Aunt Vadge: why has this cut appeared on my clit?
A small cut on your clitoris? Usually just friction or a nick that heals fast. The common causes (and the one to watch if it keeps happening), plus how to heal.
Aunt Vadge: sex slip has made me bleed – a lot
A clitoral tear from sex that bled a lot? It almost always heals on its own - the clitoris is very vascular. How to help it heal, and how to prevent a repeat.
Aunt Vadge: recurrent tears beneath clitoris
Keep getting tiny tears just below your clitoris? If you've been checking and stretching the delicate skin, that's likely the cause. The fix, and the anatomy.
Aunt Vadge: paper cuts around clitoris
Tiny paper-cut tears near your clitoris? Lingering yeast in the labial folds softens the delicate skin so it splits. Clear the yeast first - and the herpes check.
Aunt Vadge: I cut my clit shaving – can I have sex?
Cut your clitoris shaving and have a sex date coming up? It's not dangerous, but it'll likely sting. How to keep it comfortable and clean, or why waiting helps.
Aunt Vadge: I’ve got painful slits in all the cracks
Recurrent painful splits on your vulva but herpes tests are negative? The timing - after your period and after sex - points to recurrent yeast and friction.
Aunt Vadge: can a doctor see scars in my vagina?
Can a doctor see, date or 'read the cause' of an old vaginal tear? Usually not - the tissue heals without a trace, and it can't reveal your history. The facts.
Aunt Vadge: my boyfriend was rough on my clit, now it’s swollen
Clitoris swollen and sore after rough rubbing during sex? It's irritation of the engorged tissue and it heals fast. How to soothe it, and prevent a repeat.
Aunt Vadge: pains in clitoris, vagina and labia after rough sex three months ago
Burning vulval and sharp clitoral pain months after rough sex? The tissue has healed - this is likely sensitised pain, which is treatable. Who helps, and how.
Aunt Vadge: sore clitoris after fingering, but four days later it’s not better
A sore clitoris days after fingering often isn't a tear. A trapped hair or debris under the clitoral hood is a common, fixable cause. How to check.
Aunt Vadge: we were rough for my first time and I bled
Bled after rough first-time sex, then bled again when you checked? It's a small graze, and inspecting it reopened it. Leave it alone to heal - plus the newbie rules.
Aunt Vadge: do I have herpes even though the test was negative?
Recurrent posterior fourchette tear but two negative herpes swabs? It's not herpes. The real drivers are yeast, dry friction (use the lube!), and a possible skin condition.
Aunt Vadge: small dot on posterior fourchette that won’t go away
A single sore spot on the fourchette since menopause that won't heal? Likely fragile low-oestrogen skin - and a local E3 cream isn't the HRT you're avoiding. Plus, get it examined.
Aunt Vadge: paper cuts around my vaginal entrance
Paper-cut cracks at your vaginal entrance during sex but negative STI tests? It's not herpes - it's yeast weakening the skin plus dry friction. The two-pronged fix.
Aunt Vadge: sex mishap has split my vulva
An inch-long vulva tear from a sex slip that bled a lot? The area is very vascular so the blood looks dramatic - but get a gaping open tear seen promptly to heal neatly.
Aunt Vadge: cuts around clitoral hood – is it herpes?
Recurring paper-cut splits by your clitoris - is it herpes? Probably not; herpes is painful sores, not thin cuts. The likely causes are friction, yeast, or a skin condition.
Aunt Vadge: I tore my clitoral hood by mistake
Caught the delicate skin of your clitoral hood with a fingernail and it's bleeding a little? It's a small graze that heals fast. How to help it, and when to get help.
Aunt Vadge: I have a cut in my vagina that won’t heal after vaginal delivery
A birth tear that never healed? Often it's breastfeeding-related low oestrogen slowing it, granulation tissue, or a repair that didn't hold - all fixable. What to ask for.