Something else? Ask Aunt Vadge – bottom left of your screen!Aunt Vadge: persistent BV despite numerous treatments
Two years of vulval burning and rawness with clear BV swabs points beyond BV – often lichen sclerosus. Why a biopsy is worth pushing for.
Aunt Vadge: is his dry, sore penis evidence of him cheating on me?
Can vaginal dryness make a partner's penis sore – and is a sore penis a sign of cheating? What friction, yeast and pH really explain.
Aunt Vadge: How can I get my wife to want sex again?
Wife lost interest in sex after having a baby, and dryness has crept in? Why desire can't be forced, what the dryness may mean, and how to reconnect.
Aunt Vadge: fingering scratch
Bled a little after being fingered too hard without enough lube? Usually a harmless friction scratch or the hymen. What happened and when to check.
Aunt Vadge: smelly discharge, no infection – what’s wrong with me?
A strong vaginal smell with every infection test negative? If it began after something was inserted, a retained tampon must be ruled out first.
Aunt Vadge: urethral problems, bladder problems, no diagnosis for lump
A hard, growing lump over the urethra with sharp pain on weeing needs a cause found – urethral caruncle, diverticulum or Skene’s cyst. Push for a second opinion.
Aunt Vadge: cuts and tears continue, despite all bases being covered
Why recurrent vaginal fissures and tears keep coming back and won't heal, and the root causes worth investigating.
Aunt Vadge: am I just too tight to have sex?
Tearing at the bottom of the vagina during early sex is rarely about being 'too tight' – it's usually friction, dryness, condoms or a nearby cyst.
Aunt Vadge: after fingering I need to pee heaps
Constant urge to pee with little coming out after first-time fingering is usually a UTI. Four days in and losing sleep? Get it checked. What to do.
Aunt Vadge: dangling hymenal remnants – WTF!
A string of skin hanging out after rough sex is usually a harmless hymenal tag. You can still have sex and use tampons – and a doctor can snip it off.
Aunt Vadge: how do I remove dark spots on my labia?
Dark spots on the labia are almost always normal pigmentation that deepens with puberty. Why there’s nothing to fix, and when a changing spot needs a look.
Aunt Vadge: fingering used to feel good, but now it hurts and burns
Fingering used to feel good but now hurts and burns? Could be arousal and cycle changes, or thrush, dryness or irritation. When to get it checked.
Aunt Vadge: spotting and bleeding and weird periods after miscarriage
Ongoing spotting and passing tissue after a miscarriage should be checked to rule out retained tissue – then herbs and iron can help your cycle recover.
Aunt Vadge: fordyce bumps – how do I tell sexual partners what they are?
Fordyce bumps on the labia are normal, common and not contagious. How to explain them to a partner – and why you don't owe anyone an explanation.
Aunt Vadge: Does watching porn and masturbating make my Bartholin cyst worse?
Does watching porn or masturbating cause or worsen a Bartholin cyst? No – it's a blocked duct, not your fault. But a lemon-sized lump needs a doctor now.
Aunt Vadge: a vaginal infection that won’t go away
A vaginal infection that won't go away despite treatment usually means it was never properly diagnosed. Why a full microbiome test breaks the cycle.
Aunt Vadge: toy mishap
A sex toy that yanked a little skin inside the vagina usually heals in about two weeks. How to care for it, what to avoid, and when to see a doctor.
Aunt Vadge: is my womb falling out?
Something bulging at the vaginal opening that slips back when pushed is usually a pelvic organ prolapse – common, not an emergency, and very treatable.
Aunt Vadge: why did I bleed a few days before my period was due?
Bleeding a day or two before your period is due is usually just normal cycle variation. Why cycle length shifts, when to pay attention, and the sex worry.
Aunt Vadge: copious bleeding after sex
A reader has had heavy bleeding after sex for six years, with every test coming back normal. A friable cervix is the likely explanation.