Something else? Ask Aunt Vadge – bottom left of your screen!Aunt Vadge: did my boyfriend’s tongue cause brown spotting?
A tongue can't cause bleeding - brown spotting is usually ovulation or your period, plus a note on pregnancy risk.
Aunt Vadge: dry rough patch on vaginal opening after sex every day
A persistent white patch at the vaginal opening should be checked for lichen sclerosus, not just blamed on friction.
Aunt Vadge: can I use tampons with a vaginal tear?
If a tampon hurts, skip it - and a tear that won't heal or keeps recurring needs a doctor's look.
Aunt Vadge: itchy, swollen, cottage cheese discharge – what’s wrong with me?
Cottage-cheese discharge after antibiotics is usually thrush - how to treat it safely, and why not to douche.
Aunt Vadge: micro-trauma to the clitoris after exercise that won’t go away
A clitoral injury still there after six weeks needs a second look - slow healing can point to a skin condition.
Aunt Vadge: tears, bleeding, itching, irritation – what’s wrong?
Razor-like tears and bleeding after menopause often point to low oestrogen - oestrogen, diet, and finding a doctor who listens.
Aunt Vadge: Frequent UTIs, soreness around vagina after sex
Frequent UTIs and cuts after sex often trace back to gut bacteria, hygiene and dryness - how to build resilience.
Aunt Vadge: my vulva hurts randomly
A vulva that aches on random dates can be referred nerve pain - why an osteopath helps, and keeping a symptom diary.
Aunt Vadge: my vagina tastes and smells bad, but I don’t have an infection
An off vaginal smell with a poor diet usually traces to gut bacteria - fermented foods, fibre and a lavender rinse to reset it.
Aunt Vadge: why is she wet, but then we stop, and it’s then dry?
Wetness doesn't always match arousal, and vaginas dry as fluids get used up - why it happens, and how lube helps.
Aunt Vadge: Pain with sex and peeing after a UTI
Ongoing pain with sex and peeing a year after a bad UTI can be scar tissue - which specialists to see, plus reflexology at home.
Aunt Vadge: my BV won’t go away
Recurrent BV keeps returning because antibiotics clear the free-floating bacteria but leave the biofilm behind – here's how to actually break the cycle.
Aunt Vadge: If I use two fingers or a carrot, it hurts – do I still have my hymen?
Pain when you use two fingers isn't always your hymen. Arousal, a vaginal septum or other variations can be behind it, and when to see a doctor.
Aunt Vadge: my vagina is now drying up during stimulation
Getting dry partway through stimulation is usually about hormones and arousal, not something being wrong – here's what changes it, and how to help.
Aunt Vadge: are there women who don’t like vaginal sex?
Yes, plenty of women don't orgasm from penetration and are perfectly happy sticking to oral, fingers and toys – it's completely normal.
Aunt Vadge: can I get an STD from kissing?
Can you catch an STD from kissing? Almost never – here's the rare exception (gonorrhoea in the throat, oral herpes) and why you can kiss freely.
Aunt Vadge: When my penis goes into my lover’s vagina, I ejaculate too quickly – help!
Ejaculating too fast during sex is premature ejaculation – very common and very beatable. Here's how to work on it, and please your partner meanwhile.
Aunt Vadge: I douched with apple cider vinegar, and now I see a cut
An itch plus a cut on the vulva after menopause often points to atrophic vaginitis or lichen sclerosus – and douching won't help. Here's what to do.
Aunt Vadge: can I catch an STD from a guy rubbing his penis on my vagina?
You can catch some STDs from rubbing genitals or oral sex, not just penetration – here's the real risk and how to protect yourself.
Aunt Vadge: I got touched through my clothes and now it’s bleeding and sore
Bleeding and stinging after being rubbed through your clothes is usually a graze that heals in days – here's how to soothe it, and when to get checked.