Something else? Ask Aunt Vadge – bottom left of your screen!Aunt Vadge: if my hymen is gone, does that mean I’m not a virgin anymore?
Losing your hymen doesn't make you 'not a virgin' – it can wear away from tampons, sport or masturbation. Here's what virginity actually means.
Aunt Vadge: bleeding, but no pain, after fingering
Bleeding after fingering with no pain is usually a small graze or an arriving period, and carries no pregnancy risk – here's when to get it checked.
Aunt Vadge: Do girls understand when the tip goes in?
Can the tip of a penis slip in without pressure, and would she feel it? A plain, no-shame answer on first-time penetration, hymens and virginity.
Aunt Vadge: masturbating with an ice cube has caused me pain in my legs and stomach
Hurt your clitoris masturbating with an ice cube? You've done nothing wrong and almost certainly no lasting harm – here's how to heal, gently.
Aunt Vadge: less vaginal fluids than normal – why?
Noticing less natural lubrication? Vaginal fluids change with your cycle, hormones, diet and exercise – here's what's normal and when to get a swab.
STI testing
Getting an STI test is a good idea, especially if you (or your partner) likes sex with more than one person.
Aunt Vadge: is this what sex is supposed to feel like?
First-time sex that felt like pressure, pain and a small tear is very normal – here's what to expect, why arousal is everything, and when to see a doctor.
Aunt Vadge: sticky, spotting – will I be ok?
A little spotting after fingering is usually a fingernail nick, the hymen, or a benign gland draining – here's how to tell, and when to get checked.
Aunt Vadge: unexpected bleeding after fingering – is it my hymen?
A single spot of blood after fingering is usually a small friction graze, not your hymen. What it means, and when bleeding is worth checking.
Aunt Vadge: is his dry, sore penis evidence of him cheating on me?
Can vaginal dryness make a partner's penis sore – and is a sore penis a sign of cheating? What friction, yeast and pH really explain.
Aunt Vadge: How can I get my wife to want sex again?
Wife lost interest in sex after having a baby, and dryness has crept in? Why desire can't be forced, what the dryness may mean, and how to reconnect.
Aunt Vadge: fingering scratch
Bled a little after being fingered too hard without enough lube? Usually a harmless friction scratch or the hymen. What happened and when to check.
Aunt Vadge: fingering used to feel good, but now it hurts and burns
Fingering used to feel good but now hurts and burns? Could be arousal and cycle changes, or thrush, dryness or irritation. When to get it checked.
Aunt Vadge: fordyce bumps – how do I tell sexual partners what they are?
Fordyce bumps on the labia are normal, common and not contagious. How to explain them to a partner – and why you don't owe anyone an explanation.
Aunt Vadge: Does watching porn and masturbating make my Bartholin cyst worse?
Does watching porn or masturbating cause or worsen a Bartholin cyst? No – it's a blocked duct, not your fault. But a lemon-sized lump needs a doctor now.
Aunt Vadge: toy mishap
A sex toy that yanked a little skin inside the vagina usually heals in about two weeks. How to care for it, what to avoid, and when to see a doctor.
How to deal with cuts and tears from fingering and rough sex
How to care for a cut, tear or graze from fingering or rough sex, help it heal, manage the sting, and know when it needs a doctor.
Understanding persistent genital arousal disorder (PGAD) and genito-pelvic dysesthesia (GPD)
Persistent genital arousal is a condition whereby the genitals are in a state of hyperarousal at inopportune moments.
The clitoral pump
Clitoral pumps can be used both for sexual pleasure and medically improving blood flow to the genitals.
The clitoris and female orgasm
The clitoris is way bigger than you think, and has appendages that get erections, just like penises do. The female orgasm relies heavily on the internal structures of the clitoris, and their sufficient arousal.