Something else? Ask Aunt Vadge – bottom left of your screen!Aunt Vadge: weird dry, itchy bumps on my labia
A 19-year-old has a dry, itchy patch on her labia that won't go away and worries it's herpes - far more likely a vulval skin condition that needs diagnosing.
Aunt Vadge: I now bleed heavily after being fingered even though I’m not cut…
A 22-year-old bleeds heavily every time her partner fingers her - most likely benign cervical ectropion, but persistent contact bleeding needs a proper check.
Aunt Vadge: tear that hasn’t healed in three months
A young reader has a labial tear that hasn't healed in three months and is scared to see a doctor - why it needs examining, and how to get seen confidentially.
Aunt Vadge: my shower head cut me while masturbating – will I be ok?
A young reader split the skin under her clitoral hood with a shower head and it hasn't healed in a year - why it needs checking, and how to get seen.
Aunt Vadge: my partner just wants to finger me and try to make me squirt, but I hate it
A 61-year-old's partner could only orgasm by fingering her to squirt, which she hated - on bodily autonomy, pressure, and when incompatibility is reason to leave.
Aunt Vadge: Ongoing yeast problems, chlamydia, rashes
A 26-year-old is stuck in a cycle of yeast, BV odour, chlamydia and a groin rash after repeated antibiotics - how to rebuild the microbiome and break the loop.
Aunt Vadge: little white bumps on my labia
Tiny, painless white bumps on the inner labia that don’t itch or hurt are usually Fordyce spots – normal oil glands. Here’s how to tell.
Aunt Vadge: unexpected bleeding after fingering – is it my hymen?
A single spot of blood after fingering is usually a small friction graze, not your hymen. What it means, and when bleeding is worth checking.
Aunt Vadge: I have to ride a bike tomorrow, but I’ve cut my labia
A 20-year-old scratched her labia and has to ride a bike tomorrow - how to cushion, protect and soothe a labial cut so you can still ride.
Aunt Vadge: can I use ‘womb pearls’ to treat BV?
Are 'womb pearls' a safe way to treat BV? No – here's why to avoid vaginal detox pearls, plus what actually helps recurrent BV.
Aunt Vadge: had sex, now pain and blood when I pee… what’s going on?
Pain and a little blood when you pee after sex is usually a UTI or chlamydia. Two weeks in, it needs testing. What to do and when to see a doctor.
Aunt Vadge: have I discovered a double vagina?
A wall of tissue dividing the vagina can be a longitudinal vaginal septum, or 'double vagina'. What it means, and why to see a gynaecologist.
Aunt Vadge: small lump inside the lip of my vagina
A small painless lump inside the labia is often a harmless Bartholin's cyst. Warm baths help – but don't drain it yourself. When to see a doctor.
Aunt Vadge: it stings when I pee – can I still have sex?
Stinging when peeing after first-time sex, with bleeding and discharge, needs a check – it can be a UTI or an STI like chlamydia. What to do.
Aunt Vadge: persistent BV despite numerous treatments
Two years of vulval burning and rawness with clear BV swabs points beyond BV – often lichen sclerosus. Why a biopsy is worth pushing for.
Aunt Vadge: is his dry, sore penis evidence of him cheating on me?
Can vaginal dryness make a partner's penis sore – and is a sore penis a sign of cheating? What friction, yeast and pH really explain.
Aunt Vadge: How can I get my wife to want sex again?
Wife lost interest in sex after having a baby, and dryness has crept in? Why desire can't be forced, what the dryness may mean, and how to reconnect.
Aunt Vadge: fingering scratch
Bled a little after being fingered too hard without enough lube? Usually a harmless friction scratch or the hymen. What happened and when to check.
Aunt Vadge: smelly discharge, no infection – what’s wrong with me?
A strong vaginal smell with every infection test negative? If it began after something was inserted, a retained tampon must be ruled out first.
Aunt Vadge: urethral problems, bladder problems, no diagnosis for lump
A hard, growing lump over the urethra with sharp pain on weeing needs a cause found – urethral caruncle, diverticulum or Skene’s cyst. Push for a second opinion.