Aunt Vadge (A.K.A. Jessica Lloyd, Danielle Brown or Simone Jeffries)

Sore or stinging after being fingered is usually tiny grazes that heal in days. How to soothe it, and the signs it's a urinary tract infection.

Your hymen stretches rather than breaks – how to make first-time sex comfortable, with no surgery needed.

Fingering can't bring on a period – when two bleeds in a month is a harmless blip, and when to get it checked.

Itching after fingering is usually healing – how to check your hymen, and why no doctor can tell you've been fingered.

Precum can carry sperm, so the risk is low but not zero – your emergency contraception options and when to test.

With a condom on and no semen, pregnancy is extremely unlikely – why your period is late and what first-time soreness means.

A sore, dry vulva after harsh hotel soap is usually contact dermatitis – how to soothe it and when to see a doctor.

Feeling too tight is usually arousal and tension rather than size – how relaxation and arousal help, and when to seek care.

Itching, discharge and a foul smell after sex often points to BV - why to get a swab, and what fingering bleeding means.

Bleeding after brief contact is usually just your period - why virginity isn't a medical event, and when risk applies.

Supporting a partner who survived sexual abuse starts with trust, not sex - going slowly, and getting proper support.

Recurrent fourchette tears can come from the pill, herpes or skin conditions - why oestrogen may help, and getting properly examined.

An age-appropriate answer for a teen wondering what sex feels like - it shouldn't hurt, there's no rush, and who to ask.

If antifungals only half-clear the itch and cracks, it may not be yeast - diet, gut support, and when to get a swab.

A spare tampon can't cause lasting damage - why pain that returns every period needs proper investigation.

A tongue can't cause bleeding - brown spotting is usually ovulation or your period, plus a note on pregnancy risk.

A persistent white patch at the vaginal opening should be checked for lichen sclerosus, not just blamed on friction.

If a tampon hurts, skip it - and a tear that won't heal or keeps recurring needs a doctor's look.

Cottage-cheese discharge after antibiotics is usually thrush - how to treat it safely, and why not to douche.

A clitoral injury still there after six weeks needs a second look - slow healing can point to a skin condition.

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