Something else? Ask Aunt Vadge – bottom left of your screen!Aunt Vadge: if my hymen is gone, does that mean I’m not a virgin anymore?
Losing your hymen doesn't make you 'not a virgin' – it can wear away from tampons, sport or masturbation. Here's what virginity actually means.
Aunt Vadge: I’m waiting for biopsy results – is there anything I can do in the meantime?
Waiting on cervical biopsy results after an abnormal pap? Here's what the process means, what happens next, and how to support your cervical health.
Aunt Vadge: back and abdominal pain, bloating, gas, after first-time sex
Bloating, gas and back pain after first-time sex is usually gut or muscle, not something serious – here's how to sort it, and the signs to get checked.
Aunt Vadge: bleeding, but no pain, after fingering
Bleeding after fingering with no pain is usually a small graze or an arriving period, and carries no pregnancy risk – here's when to get it checked.
Aunt Vadge: unusual itching that just won’t go away
A vulvar itch that won't quit despite antifungals and steroids is often dermatitis or a lichenoid condition, not thrush – here's how to track it down.
Aunt Vadge: Do girls understand when the tip goes in?
Can the tip of a penis slip in without pressure, and would she feel it? A plain, no-shame answer on first-time penetration, hymens and virginity.
Aunt Vadge: can we use a condom if her vagina is really tight?
A 25-year-old asks whether a condom will be a problem for first-time sex with a tight vagina - the short answer is lube, patience and consent.
Aunt Vadge: masturbating with an ice cube has caused me pain in my legs and stomach
Hurt your clitoris masturbating with an ice cube? You've done nothing wrong and almost certainly no lasting harm – here's how to heal, gently.
Aunt Vadge: less vaginal fluids than normal – why?
Noticing less natural lubrication? Vaginal fluids change with your cycle, hormones, diet and exercise – here's what's normal and when to get a swab.
Aunt Vadge: I fingered myself for the first time, and slimy, chunky white stuff came out
Chunky white discharge with no smell or itch is usually normal secretions or a mild yeast overgrowth – here's how to tell, and when to check.
Aunt Vadge: antibiotics for BV made everything worse and gave me a UTI
Antibiotics for BV that keep making things worse (and triggering UTIs) point to a biofilm and a depleted microbiome – here's how to break the cycle.
Aunt Vadge: has fingering ruined my vagina?
A little bleeding after rough fingering rarely means damage – cramping comes from the uterus. Reassurance, plus gentle ways to handle the anxiety.
Aunt Vadge: is this what sex is supposed to feel like?
First-time sex that felt like pressure, pain and a small tear is very normal – here's what to expect, why arousal is everything, and when to see a doctor.
Aunt Vadge: I slipped – will my clitoris be ok or should I go to the hospital?
Fell and hurt your clitoris or vulva, with swelling and trouble walking? Get it checked to rule out a haematoma – plus how to care for it while it heals.
Aunt Vadge: sticky, spotting – will I be ok?
A little spotting after fingering is usually a fingernail nick, the hymen, or a benign gland draining – here's how to tell, and when to get checked.
Aunt Vadge: clitoral hood is disintegrating after a fingernail accident
Genital tissue that's breaking down over time is not a home-remedy situation – here's why this needs a doctor, and where to get seen.
Aunt Vadge: masturbating causes me to have back pain for a week
A 28-year-old gets back and leg pain for up to 10 days after masturbating - a classic sign of an overactive pelvic floor, and a job for a pelvic health physio.
Aunt Vadge: strange growths around my urethra
A 20-year-old noticed a small growth by her urethra that bleeds with sex after her first time - usually benign, but it needs examining in person.
Aunt Vadge: my vulva is peeling and itchy, my clitoris painful
A 21-year-old has an itchy, peeling vulva with clitoral pain and small recurring cuts - most likely a vulval skin condition that needs diagnosing in person.
Aunt Vadge: why am I bleeding when my boyfriend fingers me?
A virgin keeps bleeding when her boyfriend fingers her - usually the hymen stretching plus friction grazes, and going slower with lube sorts it out.