Something else? Ask Aunt Vadge – bottom left of your screen!Aunt Vadge: cuts and tears continue, despite all bases being covered
Why recurrent vaginal fissures and tears keep coming back and won't heal, and the root causes worth investigating.
Aunt Vadge: am I just too tight to have sex?
Tearing at the bottom of the vagina during early sex is rarely about being 'too tight' – it's usually friction, dryness, condoms or a nearby cyst.
Aunt Vadge: after fingering I need to pee heaps
Constant urge to pee with little coming out after first-time fingering is usually a UTI. Four days in and losing sleep? Get it checked. What to do.
Aunt Vadge: dangling hymenal remnants – WTF!
A string of skin hanging out after rough sex is usually a harmless hymenal tag. You can still have sex and use tampons – and a doctor can snip it off.
Aunt Vadge: how do I remove dark spots on my labia?
Dark spots on the labia are almost always normal pigmentation that deepens with puberty. Why there’s nothing to fix, and when a changing spot needs a look.
Aunt Vadge: fingering used to feel good, but now it hurts and burns
Fingering used to feel good but now hurts and burns? Could be arousal and cycle changes, or thrush, dryness or irritation. When to get it checked.
Aunt Vadge: spotting and bleeding and weird periods after miscarriage
Ongoing spotting and passing tissue after a miscarriage should be checked to rule out retained tissue – then herbs and iron can help your cycle recover.
Aunt Vadge: fordyce bumps – how do I tell sexual partners what they are?
Fordyce bumps on the labia are normal, common and not contagious. How to explain them to a partner – and why you don't owe anyone an explanation.
Aunt Vadge: Does watching porn and masturbating make my Bartholin cyst worse?
Does watching porn or masturbating cause or worsen a Bartholin cyst? No – it's a blocked duct, not your fault. But a lemon-sized lump needs a doctor now.
Aunt Vadge: a vaginal infection that won’t go away
A vaginal infection that won't go away despite treatment usually means it was never properly diagnosed. Why a full microbiome test breaks the cycle.
Aunt Vadge: toy mishap
A sex toy that yanked a little skin inside the vagina usually heals in about two weeks. How to care for it, what to avoid, and when to see a doctor.
Aunt Vadge: is my womb falling out?
Something bulging at the vaginal opening that slips back when pushed is usually a pelvic organ prolapse – common, not an emergency, and very treatable.
Aunt Vadge: why did I bleed a few days before my period was due?
Bleeding a day or two before your period is due is usually just normal cycle variation. Why cycle length shifts, when to pay attention, and the sex worry.
Aunt Vadge: copious bleeding after sex
A reader has had heavy bleeding after sex for six years, with every test coming back normal. A friable cervix is the likely explanation.
Aunt Vadge: something hard on my uterus – is it fibroids?
A 22-year-old's partner felt a hard, fingertip-sized lump during sex and she's worried it's fibroids. It's most likely her cervix.
Aunt Vadge: I kissed my girlfriend’s vagina and now it’s bleeding – help!
A panicking 20-year-old fears oral sex made his girlfriend bleed. It cannot - here are the likely reasons, and when she should get checked.
Aunt Vadge: fingering cut is healed, but when can I have sex again?
When it's safe to have sex again after a vulval cut, how these heal, and the red flags worth a doctor's look.
Aunt Vadge: little pimple below my urethra
A pimple-like bump near the urethra explained - a blocked Skene's duct and other causes, and when to see a doctor.
Aunt Vadge: my legs shake when my clit is stimulated – can I make it stop?
Why your legs shake during clitoral stimulation - a normal nervous-system response, and how to settle it.
Aunt Vadge: my boyfriend stabbed me with his penis – how is that possible?
How a penis can leave a small cut during sex, how to help it heal, and the red flags worth checking.